It is an unfortunate truth that as members of the animal kingdom, we are naturally inclined to think of ourselves before anyone else. We can’t help the fact – it’s ingrained into our brains like last week’s lottery jackpot you were one number off winning. However, being programmed with a certain amount of empathy (most of us anyway) we understand there are certain occasions that call for us to put others first – rare occasions in which your fellow human simply cannot continue without the help and support of a friend. Yes, it is admirable when you take time out of your busy schedule to rescue the odd duffer who has decided to take a dip in the canal without first learning how to swim […]
Whoops! It’s suddenly summer in earnest. Last we looked, summer was just toeing the water, fishing a long-lost floatie from the shallow end. Then bam! Next thing you know, there’s the fireworked fourth of July, cannonballing smack into the sunscreen slick of the deep end. No matter. Summer has arrived — however that happened — and brought with it a beach bag full of sage, old-timey advice just for you, dear freelancer. But forget all that. The summer is no place for no-nos and tales of caution. Here, rather, are 6 research-backed revisions of outdated advice to keep you productive and loving life all precious summer long. 1. Resist the urge to go outside > Get your a$$ outside. Everything is better outside. Sure, the […]
When you work for someone else, that little behind of yours is always on the chopping board. You know you’re a peon in corporate America if you stress over deadlines, get scolded by managers, get that nervous sweat when the big bosses pop in for a visit, deal with annoying or unproductive coworkers, lose sleep over job insecurity, and decide whether to work through your lunch break or not. Other than those things, your job is great. Working hard is 50% of the battle to get off the chopping board. You may work hard, but do you work hard enough? It’s not your company, so chances are that you slack off every once in a while. Of course, your Facebook chats at work usually happen […]
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For anyone who is not acquainted with the trend, let me give you a quick overview. In recent years a crowd of authors and bloggers revived this very old philosophy, which is based on the principle of living more conscious with less possessions and distractions. Sites such as Zen Habits, The Minimalists or Becoming Minimalist suggest that we should declutter our stuff, calendars and personal life to get rid of unnecessary possessions, busy time, overwhelming goals and fruitless relationships. By doing so we redefine our needs and also eliminate complexity, stress and frustration to achieve a simpler and more fulfilled life. Or to say it in the words of one of the leading minimalist bloggers Joshua Becker: “At its core, minimalism is the intentional promotion […]
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Worry does nothing but steal your joy and keep you very busy doing nothing. Unknown I’ve always worried about everything. I don’t know exactly when being caught up with the future became a natural state for me, but eventually it did. Every now and then I found myself living in the past, wondering how things would’ve been if I would have made different choices. When I did something I enjoyed or was with someone important to me I was always afraid of how I would feel when things came to an end. I was never truly present, and thinking about what might happen in the future consumed my energy and sucked the joy out of each moment. I wasn’t able to appreciate my everyday life. […]
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A life worth living is a life worth recording – Marilyn Grey We often find ourselves in a rut where we are demotivated and just not making any progress on the things we want in our life. Despite our countless efforts and persistent action we don’t seem to be getting any closer to the place we’ve envisioned for ourselves. We’ve all been there and it’s definitely one of the most frustrating positions you can be in; doubt. When you don’t seem to be making any progress at all you start questioning yourself, your methods and maybe even the entire enterprise you’re doing at that time. It’s by every definition a creativity killer and has blocked (and will block) many people in reaching their goals. What […]
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I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this from friends, family, friends of friends, and the general public (yes, I am listening in). Something along the lines of, “I just don’t understand why (person they are interested in) doesn’t like me. I am pretty good looking, successful, and kind. Is there something wrong with me?” Or “I can’t figure out (potential love interest) and don’t know what it means when they twirl their hair 3 times instead of 5, or look at the ground and blink twice. Am I analyzing too much?” I’m continually amazed at how others complain how their love life in a way that is typically about themselves somehow. “What’s wrong with ME?” “Why do I get constantly rejected?” […]
A First date is like a gift wrapped in a box; you’d never know what’s inside until you open it. And when you do, you are either left excited or disappointed. No matter how long you’ve been in the dating circle, going out with someone for the first is exactly what it is; a first. The many expectations dangling on your mind create a mountain hill of anxiety over how it could turn out. It could be the first of many dates, or the first and the last. If it turned out to be the latter, you don’t want to be the reason behind it. Here are 8 little ways to be awesome on a first date. 1. Pick a fun date activity Being on […]
Forgetting things suck, doesn’t it? No one knows why our brains are so fickle, but what we do know is the sensation of information we’ve just heard gushing out of our brain faster than hot water through a spaghetti strainer. And the steam of forgetting hurts. But what if I were to tell you that there are ten simple little helpers that can super-charge your memory skills … … almost with zero effort? Cool, right? Let’s get started. It’s a well-known fact that just about everyone can count from one to ten. It’s also reasonable to assume that just about everyone can make a rhyme. And I’ll bet that you, as a reader of Dumb Little Man are perfectly capable of creating rhymes for each […]
We live in the subconscious. Rather, 90% of our daily operations belong to the subconscious realm. That’s a huge chuck of us we are not in control of. It is therefore imperative we learn to take control. Your mind is a collection of billions of connections constantly wiring and rewiring themselves based on every thought, experience and action you have, experience and do every second, minute and hour of each day. Imagine your brain as a mouldable lump of clay – each firing and rewiring of the neurones following a thought, experience or action carves a groove into the clay. The more repeated, or powerful, the thought, action or experience, the deeper the groove. Let’s call this groove carver ‘The Mind Pilot’. And lets call […]
Work. Is. Boring. Am I right? Just the thought of of sitting down… opening a text page… getting your work notes out… and doing the work… Bleh, not fun at all. And not just at work either; Is doing laundry fun? Or the dishes? Or vacuuming? Nope, no way. Is there a way to make those boring activities a little more… interesting? Is it possible to find a way to be more motivated to do these things? There sure is, and it’s actually pretty fun to do. You find work boring Yeah, we all do sometimes. Even if we love our work, it can get old real quick when we do it day in and day out. You don’t know how to make work interesting […]
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Sports metaphors for life are a bit cliche, and there wouldn’t be so many of them if there wasn’t something to it. As a large portion of the world comes to a near standstill, celebrating I wanted to take a look at the subtext below the dressing up in our country’s colors, drinking and cheering. 1. Progressing Doesn’t Always Mean Winning On the final day of the group games the USA had won its 1st game, drawn its second game, and was facing a superior opponent. If they won or forced a tie they would progress. If they lost they might not have progressed to the next stage of the competition, they were dependent on the result of the other game in the group. Though […]
“The problem with external power is that it is fleeting: when you lose the money, position and possessions, you lose the power. If you have tied your identity to those things, you will also lose a sense of who you are when they fall away.” Robin Sharma There was once a time I was pursuing the things that we all are interested in pursuing: money, prestige, and status. I was working on political campaigns and helping some of the most powerful people in the country get elected. I spent countless hours plotting, strategizing and helping candidates win higher and higher offices. I got paid more as I held increasingly important positions. And with each candidate who won an office, I had even more access […]
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What gets you out of bed in the morning? Most people would answer that question with “my alarm?” I contend that the happiest people in the world could jump out of bed in the morning without the use of an alarm clock! Why? Because they have a burning passion to change the world! Now, to clarify, if you are currently not jumping out of bed in the morning, that’s ok. What that more than likely means is you are waking up to go to “work”. W – with O – out R – really K – knowing (why I’m here) So the question remains…why ARE you there? If you do not have a burning passion to fulfill your purpose at work, then you are just […]
We have all had the experience of going on a few dates with someone before deciding that he or she is not the one. That is the purpose of dating, to get to know someone and decide if they could be your mate. But how do you get out of going on another date with someone who is more into you than you are into him? If you have been on three to five dates with someone I think that person deserves to be told that you are no longer interested. It’s a karmic thing. If you were into someone and they all of a sudden disappeared you would wonder, “Where did he go? Does he still like me? Should I text him?” and ultimately […]
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How many of us have believed we should remain quiet, instead of consistently fighting for our truly remarkable ability to vocalize our thoughts? While it’s true that listening to others at least some of the time, can transform you into a well-respected person, sometimes echoing your voice into distant territories can change the world. Too many of us believe we are not worthy. But the most timeless route to demonstrate your infinite capabilities, and endlessly interesting thinking, is to open your lips and express something confidently. Confident people know they have an advantage, because they’re more likely to meet potential friends, travel to out-of-this world places, and have life-changing experiences, than those who are the exact opposite of them. Regardless if you’re afraid to […]
1. Am I grateful? Gratitude is a great balancing force. It allows us to be kind to ourselves and have a greater perspective of where we REALLY stand. Find something to be grateful for and remind yourself of it everyday! 2. Are my expectations/goals realistic? Sometimes we can set goals higher than we can climb at one time. Let yourself off the hook and break down your goals/expectations into smaller more do-able pieces. 3. What actions I am I repeating over and over again that never seem to work out? We can have a habit of repeating certain actions or practices, not because they’re working but because we’re comfortable with them and/or we’re too lazy or fearful to come up with a new way of […]
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Is it common practice for you to hit the snooze button on your alarm? Maybe twice? Or even three times? You’re not alone. For many, waking up is the worst part of the day. You just want to keep sleeping, but reality is banging loudly at your door. Do mornings always have to be such a drag? Does it need to be so darn hard just to wake up? No it doesn’t, and all it takes are a few good habits to get you going. Your morning routine sucks Let’s face it, if the first thing you do when you wake up is rush to clean up and leave for work, then your morning routine is bad. And I’m betting that most of your days […]
Online dating is a great tool for meeting people, especially when you have a good filtration system! Here I have devised the top 5 red flags to look out for when online dating. If a guy does any of these things don’t waste your time with him because you will likely never meet him and if you do, he is probably a creeper! 1. He has no pictures Everyone knows that online dating provides a quick way to sort through potential suitors. How can you go on a date with someone having no clue what they look like? I’m not saying that every girl should be looking for the hottest guy on the internet, that isn’t it at all. It’s important to know what you […]
Why can’t we all just get along? Oh, that’s right – because we’re human. Being individuals with our own unique attitudes, ideas, and opinions is generally a good thing. However, it can also be the breeding ground for conflict in relationships, whether that relationship is with a coworker, friend, or our partner. With disagreements sometimes come arguments. The two are never far from each other. So what should you do, or more importantly not do, when those unavoidable disagreements turn into quarrels? Here are six surefire ways to make sure you lose the argument: 1. Yell At The Other Person. When we lose control of our volume, we’ve also lost control of our emotions. Let the argument become a screaming match, and you’ll completely lose […]