We all have that friend who loves to argue. You know exactly who I’m talking about- the one who frustratingly has a comeback for everything you say, regardless of how absurd it is. They always seem to get under your skin; just THINKING about them gets you fired up. You would LOVE to best them in an argument, just once. You feel like that satisfaction would put you on top of the world- but HOW can you achieve it? To start looking at this problem, we must break it down. People argue to try and get their point across to YOU, to try to change YOUR mind on something, or to try and put themself above YOU. They have no ammunition if you remove YOURSELF […]
To begin with, there are only 4 points. People tend to read articles with many points so that they can continuously discover what’s wrong with them and change it ASAP. Those sessions ultimately waste the rest of the day, and pretty much the next few too. So here are 4 basic and simple ‘must adopt’ points that will help you feel more cozy around yourself. 1. Write a journal. Why? Because you can write your heart out and no one gets to know how you are feeling. Cry, laugh, move back in time, or forward, ponder over a thought or a feeling. Write it out! You could use free apps such as ‘Day one’ (App Store) and ‘Day Journal’ (Google Play) that are fast, easy […]
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Do you feel stress every day and often at unexpected times? For example, you are at an office job or just doing daily routine tasks (nothing dangerous or frightening) and your heart is racing and you are sweating way too much. You may have a deadline but nothing life-threatening. Sounds like an irrational physical reaction right? Unfortunately, you are just so used to experiencing unnecessary stress you don’t realize you need to immediately stop and think about how its harming you. You’ve probably also convinced yourself that because you feel stress you must be working hard and are being productive. It becomes a behavior pattern that you accept in your daily life. You might have even told yourself, “Suck it up and just deal.” But, […]
Can a fixation on self-improvement actually be a form of self-bashing? It’s a counter-intuitive idea, but sometimes when we think we are trying to improve ourselves, we are really just trash talking ourselves. The internet is surging with self-improvement tips, articles, books, speakers, etcetera. If a problem exists, you can find a dozen solutions online. And while it’s great to have access to all of that information, self-improvement, like all things, can go into overkill. So here is your question: Are you learning from other people or are you trying to be other people? There’s a passiveness to learning from others and their ideas. It’s the, “Oh, I never thought of that. Maybe I can incorporate some of that into my life.” Instead of the […]
Depression is that feeling that makes you unable to recognize the reflection staring at you in the mirror. You feel so heavy like a big rock is placed on your head. Your whole body is stiff like you are bound in some invisible chains. Your eyes are wide open, but your view is blurry. Not even the brightest of lights could brighten up your mood. Like a slow killer, it’s gradually eating you up… you need to do something. It’s time to get over depression and grab your life back! Here are 8 simple ways to get over depression 1. Write a letter There’s something eating you up inside. You may not be able to find the right words to express it, but you know […]
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Contrary to popular stereotypes, as a man there are a few chores I really enjoy. It’s probably due to my mother making it a point to have us all up on Saturday morning with music blasting, food cooking and cleaning the house from top to bottom. As an adult however, one thing I never perfected was the skill for cooking. This works out perfectly for my wife and me. We split household chores so she is dong the cooking and I get to handle the bulk of the cleaning and laundry. Things get a little awkward when I end up with the task of grocery shopping. I will give you a hint; that’s definitely not one of my favorites. The other day my wife asked […]
Have you ever read a web page, blog post, Facebook update or email that was just plain bad? Perhaps it was riddled with mistakes – or perhaps it was full of jargon, badly structured, or otherwise difficult to read. Almost all of us will write something online at some point in our lives: a personal blog, a company web page, a Facebook update, an email… And if you want to impress (your clients, your boss, your peers), then you have to be able to write well for the web. It’s not hard, but it is a little different from what you might have learned in school. Here’s what you need to know: #1: Big Words Don’t Win Any Prizes You don’t need to use long, […]
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Do you give good advice? Do friends and family come to you in times of crisis? How would you define good advice? Do we have to know and trust the people who change our lives? Can strangers inspire us towards drastic decisions and if they do, why? Does life tend to change randomly? Now, while you try to wrap your head around those very deep and meaningful questions, I would like to give you a quick short cut. None of the above really matters. People will not stop smoking because you tell them to. Your friend will not leave her self-destructive relationship because you point it out; and your chubby and depressed aunt will not lose weight, even if you suggest writing a diet plan […]
1. Spend time around positive people This. Is. Key. I mean for real. I want you to test this out – Here’s how: Begin to notice how you feel when you are around different types of people, negative people will make you feel heavy and tired, oh and then you will begin to say negatives things they are saying too. Positive people who support your goals and ideas, who are cheerful and carefree will give you energy, make you feel good and more determined to live a better life. You have fun with these people and they don’t take things too seriously. 2. Have great goals to work towards Write your goals down. The best way to do this is project yourself into the […]
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It’s a hard pill to swallow when we discover that we can’t get along with everyone. We all like to think that we are highly likeable and that anyone would be lucky to have us in his or her life, whether it’s as a friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, acquaintance, etc. But sometimes people’s actions towards us tell us something to the contrary. Instead of valuing and appreciating our characteristics, talents, and skills, they criticize, take advantage of or just outright don’t care about them. It seems obvious to rid these types of people from our lives but logic doesn’t always win out in this decision. If we are emotionally attached in some way to these negative people, we will look past the lack of respect and […]
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If you were given a 99 percent chance to win at a hand of poker, you’d jump on it right? What if I threw in the fact that you’d be dealt pocket aces, even better right? A few days ago World Series of Poker mainstay Connor Drinan had this very situation. What I am referring to is the WSOP’s Big One for One Drop, a straight up challenge tournament pitting players head to head in a showdown that boasts a $1 million buy-in. (For those like me who have never played poker, that’s a fancy way of saying it costs $1 million join the fun) That sounds insane until you realize the winner gets nearly $16 million in the pot to take home! I caught […]
We are the sickest, unhealthiest, and fattest we have ever been as the human species. The number of people who are overweight or even obese is at an all-time high, cancer rates are at an all-time high, and a long list of other diseases are all at “all-time-high” levels. We are chronically tired, over-worked, under-rested, consume toxic foods and drinks, spend more time with our electronics than we do with our own family and friends. We induce more stress into our lives on a daily basis than we know what to do with, and we are killing ourselves because of it. Stress used to be a survival response. Humans are hardwired with a flight or fight response – heart rate increases, blood flows from […]
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Mindfulness and Focus are hot topics right now among the Leadership and Management communities. I get questions now and again from clients and colleagues who recognize the value but don’t know where to begin. I understand. The word “mindfulness” can conjure up all kinds of images, usually involving people in business attire sitting cross-legged on boardroom tables. Nothing could be further from the truth, of course, but crossing that chasm from myth to fact can be a bit much to overcome in one giant leap. Luckily, there are some small, deceptively simple steps you can make toward becoming more mindful at work that don’t involve a yoga mat or the skills of a professional contortionist. Here are 15 things you can do starting tomorrow to […]
You’ve made the decision. Starting right now you are going to take the necessary actions to develop yourself. Maybe it’s personal development for business, marriage, family, kids, etc. You first need to decide which area you want to develop. I won’t get into that here. In this post I’m referencing personal development as a whole, and principles that will help you on your journey. Let’s begin… 1. Read 10 pages every day – experts agree that most successful people read before going to sleep each night. For most successful people, reading is a non-negotiable! Why? Because the key to personal development is being a life-long learner. The best and easiest way to engage in this process is through books. Some of you might not read […]
I hate Facebook – that seems like the best way to start a discussion about my friends. Oh, I use it of course, otherwise how would I know I hate it; but I use it begrudgingly. I resisted it for a very long time, I’ve only been active since about August last year, and there are days that I seriously regret ever succumbing to the pressure. There are a number of reasons that I don’t like the interface, how they capture data, how they manipulate us, or how they are changing their promotional functions and views – but this post isn’t about that. This post is about Facebook ‘friends’; and the loss of common manners when it comes to sharing content on social media. I […]
If you are like the average investor, you fail at investing. I’m sorry to be so harsh, but studies have shown this to be true. The average investor only earns 2% a year while the stock market earns an average of 8%. Why the discrepancy? The main reason is because we are human and we derail ourselves from what should be done. Below I list 4 of the biggest reasons why you fail at investing. Are you guilty of any of these? 4 Reasons Why You Fail At Investing You’re A Trader, Not An Investor If you find yourself placing buy and sell trades frequently throughout the year, then you are a trader and not an investor. An investor creates a plan and chooses a […]
Having a great life, enjoying freedom and flexibility in your days, and truly being fulfilled by what you do is something we all strive for. But the bitter reality is that very few of us actually do. Most of us will spend our time here going through the motions of a well-balanced life and die with too many regrets to count. And although this post may come off as a tad negative, its purpose is to serve you a much needed wake up call. You and I don’t need to suck at life. We can and should be great and do great things. We should live a life of abundance and prosperity and it’s within our grasp to have it. But the truth is that […]
It is an unfortunate truth that as members of the animal kingdom, we are naturally inclined to think of ourselves before anyone else. We can’t help the fact – it’s ingrained into our brains like last week’s lottery jackpot you were one number off winning. However, being programmed with a certain amount of empathy (most of us anyway) we understand there are certain occasions that call for us to put others first – rare occasions in which your fellow human simply cannot continue without the help and support of a friend. Yes, it is admirable when you take time out of your busy schedule to rescue the odd duffer who has decided to take a dip in the canal without first learning how to swim […]
Whoops! It’s suddenly summer in earnest. Last we looked, summer was just toeing the water, fishing a long-lost floatie from the shallow end. Then bam! Next thing you know, there’s the fireworked fourth of July, cannonballing smack into the sunscreen slick of the deep end. No matter. Summer has arrived — however that happened — and brought with it a beach bag full of sage, old-timey advice just for you, dear freelancer. But forget all that. The summer is no place for no-nos and tales of caution. Here, rather, are 6 research-backed revisions of outdated advice to keep you productive and loving life all precious summer long. 1. Resist the urge to go outside > Get your a$$ outside. Everything is better outside. Sure, the […]
When you work for someone else, that little behind of yours is always on the chopping board. You know you’re a peon in corporate America if you stress over deadlines, get scolded by managers, get that nervous sweat when the big bosses pop in for a visit, deal with annoying or unproductive coworkers, lose sleep over job insecurity, and decide whether to work through your lunch break or not. Other than those things, your job is great. Working hard is 50% of the battle to get off the chopping board. You may work hard, but do you work hard enough? It’s not your company, so chances are that you slack off every once in a while. Of course, your Facebook chats at work usually happen […]
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