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Date: Thursday, 10 Apr 2014 07:02

Consciousness/Competence

What happens when we learn new skills that take us out of our comfort zone? When we're striving to be authentic, is it OK when we act with intention and forethought?

The Conscious Competence model, developed by Martin Broadwell in the late 1960s, offers a useful framework to address these questions.

In most areas where we face a challenge, we start out in Unconscious Incompetence (quadrant #1 above): We're screwing up, and we don't even know it. In the context of my work with coaching clients and MBA students, this usually involves difficulties in working relationships and interpersonal situations. We believe our behavior is having the desired effect on others, but it's not--and we don't even realize it.

But these mistakes accumulate, and their consequences heighten our awareness, and we find ourselves in Conscious Incompetence (quadrant #2): We know we're screwing up, and we may even know what we need to do differently, but we haven't yet figured out how to do it. Here's where we need to paddle like hell and catch that wave--and this is where we often fall short. We know we need to adopt some new behaviors to be more effective in these relationships and situations, but our heightened awareness becomes self-consciousness, and we find ourselves paralyzed by awkwardness or by a fear of inauthenticity.

As for the awkwardness, one of the most common themes in my work with coaching clients and MBA students is increasing our comfort with discomfort. We need to expand our capacity to tolerate discomfort to ensure that when we experience it we can manage the resulting emotions and avoid any reflexive responses that might be counterproductive. One of the ways we can pursue this goal is by retraining our response to awkwardness and other forms of discomfort; rather than allowing ourselves to be governed by our aversion to these feelings, we can simply note them, reframe the situation as a learning opportunity, and continue experimenting with new behaviors even in the face of these feelings.

As for the inauthenticity, Scott Bristol, a Lecturer at Stanford with whom I've worked closely over the years, offers this perspective: If we view authenticity as something to be discovered, as an innate state of being that precedes our consciousness, then we experience the feelings of awkwardness that inevitably accompany new behaviors as signs of inauthenticity. But if instead we view authenticity as something to be created, as a state of being that evolves over time through our conscious intervention, then we're free to be both awkward and authentic; the two aren't mutually exclusive.

All of this is easy to write about and very difficult to put into practice--and yet persistent effort can change our relationship to these feelings and to any new behaviors we're attempting that give rise to them. The University of Washington psychologist John Gottman has discussed the concept of meta-emotion--the feelings and thoughts we have about our own emotions (and he notes that parents who have a less negative response to emotion appear to raise children who are better able to manage and express their own emotions.) My experience as a coach suggests that we can influence our meta-emotional state over time; by repeatedly exposing ourselves to emotions such as awkwardness and embarrassment, we feel less negatively about them, and we can change how we respond to them. We become more comfortable with discomfort.

When this happens we're able to cross over into Conscious Competence (quadrant #3) and begin the process of refining any new behaviors and determining which ones we'll integrate into our permanent repertoire. We're acting intentionally with increasingly positive effect, and with continued practice these newly adopted behaviors become second nature, and we slip into Unconscious Competence (quadrant #4).

Our trajectory from this point forward depends on our circumstances. Occasionally our expanded behavioral repertoire is sufficient to allow us to continue on, highly competent and blissfully unaware. We devote little active thought to our interactions in certain relationships and situations, and yet we continue to meet with success. But the dynamic nature of most interpersonal experiences means that we usually wind up back where we started, in quadrant #1, unconsciously incompetent and unaware that our current behavior isn't meeting our goals. And the cycle begins again.

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Date: Sunday, 06 Apr 2014 21:05

Coaching Your Employees: An HBR Webinar

A few weeks ago I conducted a 1-hour webinar for HBR on Coaching Your Employees, and an archived video of my talk is now available. HBR has also produced a well-written 7-page summary of my comments [PDF, 480KB], and you can view my slides separately.

Thanks again to Angelia Herrin for inviting me to participate, to Lisa McMullen for her tremendous help and support, and to all their colleagues at HBR and Citrix/GoToWebinar who made it happen.

Two further notes of appreciation: First, my slides conclude with a section on Resources, linking to the authors I mentioned in my talk; if you're interested in the topics noted below, these works are a great place to start:

I'd also like to thank Mary Ann Huckabay, Carole Robin, and my colleagues on the Stanford GSB coaching staff, with whom I've worked closely since 2007 in the school's Leadership Fellows program and the former Leadership Coaching course. All of these people have had an immense impact on my approach to coaching, and I'm deeply grateful for their influence.

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Date: Wednesday, 26 Mar 2014 21:39

Skateboarding

Fernando Blat recently tweeted a pic of a slide describing how Spotify builds a product (which I've re-posted below.)

The essence of the slide is that Spotify does not build by painstakingly crafting a perfect product that's not functional until it's fully assembled. They iterate in stages, developing a functional but rudimentary product at first and improving it at each step along the way.

In the visual language of the slide, Spotify isn't building a car, starting with a wheel, adding a chassis, then a body, and only then adding a windshield and controls that allow a user to start traveling. Rather, Spotify is providing transport, starting with a ratty skateboard, and then progressing through steps from a scooter to a bicycle to a motorcycle and then, finally, to a car.

The point is that users don't have to wait until the car is perfected to begin their journey--they can jump on that skateboard and get going now. Just as important, Spotify doesn't have to wait until their development process is over to get feedback from users on how they like the car--they can ask them how they like the skateboard now.

I'm not a software developer (although I coach quite a few), and you probably aren't either, but I think this concept is relevant to almost all of us no matter what we do. Whatever our actual goals, let's imagine that we're in the transportation business, like the little figures on the Spotify slide. We can start building the perfect vehicle from the outset--but it's going to take a long time to create value for anyone. Or we can create some type of minimum viable product and share it with the world today. In other words, make more skateboards.

How Spotify Builds a Product

I'm reminded of the wisdom of Vince Stehle--"Don't build a castle; put up a thousand tents"--and of Bre Pettis and Kio Stark's The Cult of Done.

Thanks to madhava and Eugene Kim for bringing Fernando's photo to my attention. Yay Twitter.

Photo of skateboarders by Michael Coghlan. Yay Flickr and Creative Commons.

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Date: Sunday, 23 Mar 2014 22:26

Penny

We all have accomplishments we're striving for, milestones we hope to reach, behaviors we want to do more of (or less of)--and setting goals can help motivate us along the way. But research shows that goals have complex (and sometimes counterproductive) effects--while they can help us to get started and persist in our efforts, they can also diminish our sense of fulfillment and leave us demoralized.

One way to manage this challenge is to distinguish between a long-term goal--a large target at which we're aiming over time--and the smaller-scale, day-to-day experience of our pursuit of that goal. Let's call the latter a micro-goal. For example, staying active is an important goal of mine, as it is for many of my coaching clients (most of whom, like me, find it difficult to make time to exercise because we're happy workaholics.) But "Be active" is too large and abstract to serve as an effective goal for me. What does it mean? How do I put it into practice? Further, how does it help me when I'm not active for a certain period of time? It doesn't--and it's actually a demotivator, leaving me feeling guilty and disappointed in myself.

I find it helpful to think smaller, and my most important micro-goal is: "Be active today." In other words, engage in some form of physical activity today, no matter how modest. This micro-goal offers three key advantages. First, it's the essence of simplicity: At the end of each day, I just ask myself, Did I exercise? and the answer's immediately evident. Second, it offers regular opportunities--daily!--for "little victories," momentary experiences that give us a sense of well-being and fulfillment. And third, it's easy to track: I've been asking myself this question since March 23, 2008--nearly 2,200 days, as of this writing--and using Don't Break the Chain to record my responses each day.

Do I exercise every day? I wish. But not only do I exercise more often because I pursue this micro-goal, because I track my data I'm also able to go back and look at periods in my life when I was more (or less) active and understand what factors were sustaining me (or were getting in my way.) This approach is applicable to any goal that can be broken down into activities we want to pursue (or avoid) on a regular basis. The key is paying just enough attention to the large-scale goal to help us get started and then ignoring it in favor of our micro-goals, the smaller daily events that constitute our lived experience.

This isn't necessarily an easy process. Focused attention is a form of mental control that can be quite difficult, and one reason goals are so powerful (and can have such negative consequences) is their ability to readily capture our attention even when we want to direct it elsewhere. In fact, this difficulty is one reason why I keep trying to meditate: I experience meditation not as a form of relaxation but as a workout in directing my attention. Eventually I meditated almost daily for 18 months, until I blew out a disk in my back, and the pain knocked me out of my exercise and mindfulness routines. A year later I'm finally back to regular exercise, but still trying to return to a regular meditation practice. Baby steps and micro-goals.


More on goal-tracking services: There's an entertaining story behind about Don't Break the Chain. It's a free service, but you can donate (as I have) to avoid seeing any ads. As much as I love DBTC, I have to say that the iOS app is terrible--when I'm using my phone I just visit the site via my browser. There are a number of other services along these lines. I tried Lift (mobile-only) for several months, and while I liked a number of its features, the inability to filter community visibility was problematic (although others may find it an advantage.) I've also just learned about Chains, which seems intriguing.

Thanks to Dorie Clark for the inspiration.

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Date: Thursday, 20 Mar 2014 18:40

This morning I conducted a webinar for Harvard Business Review on Coaching Your Employees, and while a full recording of the presentation will be posted within a few days at HBR's Events page, here's a copy of my slides.

I'm told we had over 4,000 people registered, and I'm really grateful for the opportunity to talk to such a large audience on a topic that I believe is so important for today's leaders and managers (and which has had a profound impact on my own professional life.)

Many thanks to Angelia Herrin for inviting me to participate, to Lisa McMullen for her tremendous help and support, and to all their colleagues at HBR and Citrix/GoToWebinar who made it happen!

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Date: Wednesday, 19 Mar 2014 04:44

Coaching Your Employees

HBR has invited me to do a 1-hour webinar on Coaching Your Employees, and it's scheduled for this Thursday, March 20, 9am Pacific / Noon Eastern. Registration is free.

Topics will include Leadership roles, When coaching works (and when it doesn't), Coaching tools, Coaching traps, and Putting it into practice.

I'll build not only on my experiences with clients and in Stanford's Leadership Fellows program and former Leadership Coaching course, but also on the HBR Guide to Coaching Your Employees, which I co-authored last year.

As someone who first became a coaching client in 2001--an experience that changed my professional life--and who's been writing about coaching since 2005, I'm really honored to have been asked to share my perspective on this work, and I hope you can join us.

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Date: Tuesday, 11 Feb 2014 18:54

We're generally intelligent people...so why do we do such dumb things?

One of the best ways to explain our counterproductive behavior is the Ladder of Inference. This elegant model was first developed by Chris Argyris, building on the work of S.I. Hayakawa and Alford Korzybski, and articulated further by William Isaacs and Rick Ross. Start at the bottom and work your way up:

Ladder of Inference

Selection: Our starting point in any experience is the process of identifying and selecting certain data from the sum total of all observable data.

Interpretation: We interpret the data we select and invest it with meaning, a process that occurs at the cultural and personal levels. Argyris describes "culturally understood meanings" as interpretations "that individuals with different views...would agree were communicated." [Overcoming Organizational Defenses, p 88] (The "culture" in question may range from a nationality to an organization to a two-person relationship, but whatever its scope, certain meanings will be commonly understood by all members.) At the personal level, individuals from the same culture may interpret the same data differently, depending on their particular perspective.

Conceptualization: As we select and intepret data over time, we develop a set of theories and beliefs that explain our interpretations. These theories and beliefs--which Argyris and Chris Schön called "mental maps" and "mental models"--help us make sense of not only of specific individuals, relationships, groups and situations but also of how people generally operate in organizations and the world at large.

Action: Finally, we take action on the basis of these theories and beliefs, which provide us with a set of behavioral algorithms--habitual responses to certain circumstances that kick in when a given mental model is triggered.

The key to the Ladder of Inference (and its value in helping us to understand our counterproductive behavior) is to note the tremendous potential for misunderstanding at each stage of the process:

Selection (Where We Go Wrong): Because it's impossible to take in all the observable data in a given experience, we rely upon cognitive biases and heuristics (of which there are a staggering number) to help us focus our attention on the data that (we believe) matters most. Although this process is essential in allowing us to function efficiently, it's also subject to significant error, particularly when we're under stress. So it's worth asking: Are we truly focusing on the most important data, or are our biases and heuristics causing us to fixate on certain data while ignoring others?

Interpretation (Where We Go Wrong): The meanings we impose upon the data we select are highly subjective, seen through the lenses of both the surrounding culture and our personal experience. This isn't to suggest that all our interpretations are suspect; we've evolved a keen ability to rapidly and accurately interpret massive amounts of data. And yet our overall effectiveness in this process means that we rarely stop to question our interpretations; we automatically assume that meaning is inherent in the data itself, rather than something we actively construct. So it's worth asking: Does a given piece of data mean what we think it does, or might our cultural or personal lenses be causing some distortion?

Conceptualization (Where We Go Wrong): Once again, the quest for cognitive efficiency that leads us to further condense our interpretations into a set of conceptual theories and beliefs serves an important purpose but also threatens to lead us astray on a regular basis. As we refine our experiences from perceptions (observed data) to conceptions (abstract theories and beliefs), by necessity we leave out vast amounts of potentially crucial information as we streamline and simplify. So it's worth asking: How might our theories and beliefs fail to fully account for what's happening right now?

Action (Where We Go Wrong): By the time we've reached the top rung of the Ladder, we're executing our behavioral sub-routines like clockwork. But that consistency in part reflects our resistance to any form of cognitive dissonance that might threaten to disrupt the process; as I wrote in 2010, "when our attitude and our behavior are inconsistent, we experience discomfort and even distress, and we modify either our attitude or our behavior to reduce the inconsistency"--and research suggests that we tend to change our theories and beliefs in order to bring them in line with our preferred course of action. So it's worth asking: Are we truly taking thoughtful action, or are we on autopilot?

One further, systemic source of error is the Reflexive Loop, first noted by William Isaacs: Our theories and beliefs affect the data we select, typically resulting in the selection of data that reinforce those theories and beliefs. As David Bradford says, "Whoops--I'm right again!"

Reflexive Loop

The fundamental problem here is that the Ladder carries us rapidly away from our actual, lived experience into a cloud of abstraction, where it can be extremely difficult for reality to penetrate. As Argyris writes, "This ladder of inference shows...that the evaluations or judgments people make automatically are not concrete or obvious. They are abstract and highly inferential. Individuals treat them as if they were concrete because they produce them so automatically that they do not even think that their judgments are highly inferential." [Overcoming Organizational Defenses, pp 88-89]

But we shouldn't give up hope, as Rick Ross notes: "You can't live your life without adding meaning or drawing conclusions. It would be an inefficient, tedious way to live. But you can improve your communications...by using the ladder of inference in three ways:

Becoming more aware of your thinking and reasoning (reflection);

Making your thinking and reasoning more visible to others (advocacy);

Inquiring into others' thinking and reasoning (inquiry)." [The Fifth Discipline Fieldbook, p 245]

An even simpler way to use the Ladder is to determine what rung we're on, pause, and drop down a step (or two):

  • If we're taking action, pause, and ask ourselves what theories and beliefs are driving our action.
  • If we're formulating theories and beliefs, pause, and clarify the meaning we're imposing upon the data at hand.
  • If we're interpreting data, pause, and determine just what data we've selected.
  • And if we're selecting data, pause, and check to see what other data might be out there.

Postscript: The Ladder and Emotion Regulation

Argyris, who died in 2013, developed the Ladder decades ago without the benefit of contemporary neurological and psychological research, but we can certainly view it as a tool to support emotion regulation, more specifically the process of cognitive reappraisal, which Columbia University psychologist Jason Buhle describes as "a strategy that involves changing the way one thinks about a stimulus in order to change its affective impact." David Rock, who's written extensively on the implications of neuroscience for coaching and organizational life, notes that "when we pull apart the difference between an event and our interpretations of it, we are setting the stage for reappraisal,"[Coaching with the Brain in Mind, p 360] which is a concise description of how to use not only the Ladder but also Rock's own SCARF model for deconstructing perceived social threats.

But this highlights the difficulty of "pausing" at the various rungs on the Ladder, as advised above, because the entire cycle of selecting and interpreting data, fitting our interpretation into a set of theories and beliefs, and taking action can be completed in just fractions of a second. This is where our capacity for mental control and emotional management are critical. Comprehending the Ladder is just the first step; to put it into practice in real life we have to continually develop our abilities to intervene in our cognitive and emotional processes, direct our attention toward certain stimuli (and away from others), and learn to regulate our thoughts and emotions without suppressing them. And that's much harder work.


Credits

The most commonly-cited discussion of the Ladder can be found in the outstanding Fifth Discipline Fieldbook, by Peter Senge et al. The Ladder chapter [pp 242-246] is by Rick Ross, and while it provides a concise and useful description of the concept, I find the illustration (by Martie Holmer) unhelpful. It includes seven (!) steps in the process and refers to"meanings," "assumptions," and "conclusions" without offering any substantive distinctions among those terms.

I prefer Argyris' discussion in Overcoming Organizational Defenses [pp 88-89]; it's simpler and more straightforward, although--Argyris being Argyris--it's densely written and requires some understanding of other concepts in his framework. (I've heard that the Ladder is discussed more extensively in Argyris' Reasoning, Learning and Action, but I haven't yet read it.)

My framework above is a hybrid of Argyris' original and the Ross/Senge version. The former treats "Culturally understood meanings" and "Meanings imposed by us" as separate rungs--I've collapsed them--and omits a step from theories/beliefs to action. The latter, as I've noted, has seven (!) steps, which is just way too many.

Thanks to my Stanford colleagues Carole Robin (who introduced me to the Ladder) and Hugh Keelan (who teaches an informative and highly-entertaining segment on the Ladder each year to our Leadership Fellows).

For serious nerds only: According to William Isaacs, a colleague of Senge and the author of Dialogue: The Art of Thinking Together, Argyris' work on the Ladder is "based on a theory of abstraction by Alford Korzybski," a Polish intellectual from the early 20th century [Dialogue, p 408]. Korzybski is best known today for the line "A map is not the territory it represents," although the book from which this concept derives, Science and Sanity, isn't widely read (I've just skimmed online excerpts), and people interested in his theories are generally referred to the more coherent and accessible Language in Thought and Action, by S.I. Hayakawa (which I highly recommend). In the preface to the 5th edition of "Language...", Hayakawa cites Korzybski as his primary influence. Isaacs refers the even more diligent researcher to Samuel Bois' The Art of Awareness, a book so obscure that even Amazon has almost nothing to say about it, and which I have no intention of pursing further.

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Date: Wednesday, 01 Jan 2014 23:57

West Cliff Drive, Santa Cruz

It's been an unusual year. There have been some very high highs: I believe I'm doing the best work I've ever done with my clients and students; my brother David realized a long-held dream and opened a bar; I began writing for HBR; I stepped into a new role with Stanford T-groups; and I realized how much I have to be thankful for.

And there have been some very low lows: I failed at an important project; I blew out a disk and was in pain for months; I'm no longer in pain, but I'm still struggling to exercise regularly (and to meditate at all); I wrote almost nothing from March through August; and I was reminded (several times) of one of my greatest weaknesses.

Somewhere in the midst of all this--neither a high nor a low--I finally, truly grasped the essence of mortality, and Seneca's On the Shortness of Life has stayed with me:

There is nothing the busy man is less busied with than living: there is nothing that is harder to learn. It takes the whole of life to learn how to live, and...it takes the whole of life to learn how to die... [I]t takes a great man and one who has risen far above human weaknesses not to allow any of his time to be stolen from him, and it follows that the life of such a man is very long because he has devoted wholly to himself whatever time he has had. None of it lay neglected and idle; none of it was under the control of another, for, guarding it most grudgingly, he found nothing that was worthy to be taken in exchange for his time. [Ch. 7]

I'm a long way from living up to that standard, but I'm closer than I've ever been, and that's something.

Tonight Amy and I walked along West Cliff Drive in Santa Cruz and watched the sun set; it was a good way to end a year. See you in 2014.

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Date: Sunday, 29 Dec 2013 23:42

Startup

Although the clients in my coaching practice come from a wide range of professions and work in organizations of all sizes, I see a large number of startup founders and other leaders from early-stage companies. And my work with these clients--as well as my own experience as the first employee at three nonprofit ventures--has led me to view startups as distinct human systems. There's no one-size-fits-all template to describe how these systems operate, nor are the interpersonal principles in startups fundamentally different from those in other organizations. But there are some tendencies that I see in my startup clients' companies on a consistent basis:

1. Complex Group Dynamics

This point underpins all the others below: Startups are deceptively complex organizations. The small number of employees and, often, the shared background of the founding team can give the impression that the company's interpersonal dynamics will be simple and easy to manage.

But by definition a startup is in the process of establishing its culture, the set of informal norms and formal practices that determine how people interact with each other in a given system. A startup's culture can change rapidly, sometimes with the arrival or departure of a single person. And while some founders are intensely deliberate about the culture they're creating, the pressure to tackle today's to-do list can make it easy to think of culture as something to be dealt with later. (As Joel Peterson has said, every organization has a distinct culture--the question is whether it develops "inadvertently or with some planning and forethought.")

When the surrounding culture is subject to dramatic change--and when leaders may lack the capacity to step back and consider the cultural impact of their actions--group dynamics are inevitably complex. This complexity may become apparent only at key inflection points in the company's development--the first non-founder employees, a move to new space, the first firing, the departure of a founder--but effective startup leaders recognize this complexity well in advance of these critical junctures.

2. Communication = Survival

The efficient flow of information in a startup is critical to its health and success. Established organizations can survive inefficiencies, requiring multiple conversations to accurately transmit a message and get it to stick; they won't thrive, but they'll survive, sometimes for extended periods of time. Startups will die.

The presumption of simplicity noted above can fool startup leaders into thinking that good communication is a natural by-product of interactions within the company: We talk when we need to talk, and we meet when we need to meet. And if we're meeting and talking, we must be communicating.

But truly accurate and meaningful communication takes effort. We need to work at being clear and direct, because what we say isn't necessarily what the other party hears. And we need to work at active listening, because even if we've absorbed the other party's message they may not truly feel heard. Effective startup leaders see communication as critical to survival and work to improve communication practices in the company at both the individual and group levels.

3. Feedback = Learning

A corollary to the point above: Just as startups depend on efficient communication to survive, they depend on effective feedback to drive learning. (Note that good feedback doesn't simply mean honest criticism of counterproductive behavior; it also means heartfelt praise that acknowledges and rewards useful behavior.) But just as we assume that our interactions with others naturally result in meaningful communication, we tend to operate under the belief that simply sharing our responses to others' behavior is all we need to do for our feedback to have the desired effect.

But even more than other forms of communication, truly effective feedback is the result of hard work and dedicated effort. In part this is because giving and receiving feedback is stressful--even when it's positive--and when we're under stress we're much less effective communicators. We absorb and process information less efficiently, we're less creative at solving problems, and we fixate on perceived solutions without testing alternatives--in short, perfect conditions for feedback that doesn't stick.

Organizations seeking to maximize learning must counter these effects by building a feedback-rich culture in which a heightened sense of safety and trust makes truly candid feedback possible. And effective startup leaders establish these conditions early and reinforce them often.

4. Relationships Matter

Interpersonal relationships in startups tend to matter even more than they do in established organizations. One dysfunctional relationship can affect the entire company, especially if a founder is involved. And a single person with poor interpersonal skills can undermine every working relationship around them--again, especially if it's a founder.

But relationship difficulties in startups can often be masked or go unaddressed. Leaders may assume that the founding team's pre-existing friendships or shared background automatically translate into healthy working relationships. When founders themselves lack interpersonal skills, co-founders and early employees are typically reluctant to confront them. And the pressure to deliver results often leaves little time to discuss interpersonal issues.

Yet my clients' experiences demonstrate the importance of interpersonal factors in a startup. The single issue I discuss most frequently with founders is how to better manage difficulties in their working relationships with co-founders, senior employees and investors. Note that this work doesn't just involve building stronger personal connections--it also deals with exerting more effective control when necessary. Effective startup leaders make time to reflect on their key relationships and attend to difficulties early.

5. Leaders As Levers

Much of the discussion above has focused on the challenges faced by founders that derive from startups' scale and stage of development, but I also want to highlight an advantage: startup leaders enjoy a tremendous amount of personal leverage to drive positive change and make mid-course corrections when necessary.

All leaders striving for change must work within an existing culture. In established organizations this is a slow, painstaking and failure-prone process, and even the most highly effective individual leaders can struggle as they attempt to indirectly influence parts of the organization that are well beyond their personal reach. But in the context of a startup's small scale and evolving culture, founders and other senior leaders have many more opportunities to connect directly with every employee, allowing them to have a significant impact through their personal example.

This leverage has a flipside, of course: When startup leaders fail to live up to the principles they espouse or prove untrustworthy in some other way, it's obvious to everyone in the company and rapidly undermines employees' loyalty and commitment. Effective startup leaders realize that their leverage comes at a price, and they will be expected to walk their talk every day.

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Date: Tuesday, 24 Dec 2013 21:30

My posts at HBRMy latest post at HBR: Building a Feedback-Rich Culture:

As an executive coach and an experiential educator, I’m a passionate believer in the value of interpersonal feedback. To become more effective and fulfilled at work, people need a keen understanding of their impact on others and the extent to which they’re achieving their goals in their working relationships. Direct feedback is the most efficient way for them to gather this information and learn from it.

But the form that most interpersonal feedback takes — a conversation between two people — can trick us into seeing it as a product of the relationship when it’s equally (if not more so) a product of the surrounding culture... Read the rest at HBR.

This post is an extended update of an earlier version on this site, with actionable steps for each of the four essential elements of a feedback-rich culture, as well as links to relevant research. It's part of an HBR Insight Center on Culture That Drives Performance, which includes posts on The Defining Elements of a Winning Culture and The Three Pillars of a Teaming Culture.

Thanks to Lisa Burrell for inviting me to participate.

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Date: Thursday, 19 Dec 2013 05:49

Today I facilitated a workshop on Startup Communication at Flixster in San Francisco aimed at helping co-founders 1) communicate more effectively with each other, 2) establish group norms in the company that support better communication and 3) model better communication with their employees.

Twenty-two co-founders from 11 ventures participated, and although I always enjoy working on this topic with this audience, there was something special about today's group. They were eager to dive in, push themselves and take some risks, and there's nothing more gratifying for a facilitator.

The event was organized by Alicia Morga and Joe Greenstein who care deeply about this topic (and who personally walk the talk.) Thanks to everyone who was able to be there--I really enjoyed it.

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Date: Tuesday, 17 Dec 2013 16:37

My posts at HBRMy latest post at HBR: Doing Less, Leading More:

Our first accomplishments as professionals are usually rooted in our skill as individual contributors. In most fields we add value in the early stages of our careers by getting things done. We’re fast, we’re efficient, and we do high-quality work. In a word, we’re doers. But when we carry this mindset into our first leadership roles, we confuse doing with leading... Read the rest at HBR.

This is the third post in a series on "the problems of success." Here's the first: Learning to Say "No" Is Part of Success. And here's the second: Happy Workaholics Need Boundaries, Not Balance

Many of my executive coaching clients and MBA students at Stanford are going through a transition that involves a step up to the next level in some way. They’re on the cusp of a big promotion, or they’ve launched a startup, or their company just hit some major milestone. Very few, if any, of these people would say that they’ve "made it"; they’re still overcoming challenges in pursuit of ambitious goals. And yet their current success has created a meaningful inflection point in their careers; things are going to be different from now on. The nature of this difference varies greatly from one person to another, but I see a set of common themes that I think of as "the problems of success."

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Date: Wednesday, 11 Dec 2013 07:39

All Souls

A few days ago, my brother David opened All Souls, a bar at 725 T Street NW in the Shaw neighborhood of Washington DC. Here's how he describes it on their Facebook page:

A corner bar where all are welcome and there's a little something for everyone.

All Souls seeks to be a neighborhood bar. We’re not a sports bar, a gastropub, a wine bar, a speakeasy or a restaurant. We will be none of these things, yet we will have something for everyone. You will be able to find the craft beers of a gastropub and the interesting labels of a wine bar. If you prefer a cocktail it will be crafted with care and attention to detail. The food will be simple, but elevated, not your typical bar food. And you’ll be able to enjoy all of it while listening to good, eclectic music or watching the game quietly playing in the background.

David's a longtime DC bartender and bar manager, including a number of years at Jaleo and Zaytinya, and running a place like All Souls has been his dream forever. Opening a new bar in DC takes a tremendous amount of work and patience, and David's poured his heart and soul into it.

Tonight David Garber, Commissioner of DC's Navy Yard neighborhood in Ward 6 was walking down T Street...

And we had the following exchange...

I'm really glad Garber shared that, because it reminds me how truly proud my brother Matthew and I are of David. Many, many people have made All Souls possible--most notably my talented sister-in-law Soung Wiser, whose awesome design firm did the logo you see in the window above (along with many other contributions.) And yet I do take a unique sense of brotherly pride in all of David and Matt's accomplishments, and it'll be a particularly special moment when the three of us get to pull up stools at All Souls and have a drink together. I hope you get a chance to stop by.

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Date: Tuesday, 10 Dec 2013 08:09

Rubbernecking

Tyler Green recently tweeted, "Turn your critical lens toward things you think matter, that you want to discuss, share. Let practice win out over rubbernecking."

And "rubbernecking" strikes me as the perfect way to describe how we let things that don't matter distract us from things that do.

Rubbernecking happens when we notice other people paying attention to something (real or virtual) and automatically assume that it's worthy of our attention as well.

Rubbernecking happens when we suspect something's probably meaningless, but a faint, persistent anxiety keeps us fixated on it.

Rubbernecking happens when we know something's completely meaningless, but a fascination with the spectacle prevents us from turning away.

Why does this matter? Because of the importance of our focused attention. As I've written before, focused attention is our most precious resource because 1) it's extremely taxing on our intellectual and emotional capabilities, 2) it can have a amazingly powerful effect on its object, and 3) it can't be subdivided. (We can pay continuous partial attention to multiple objects, but we can truly focus on only one object at any given moment.)

And every instance of rubbernecking represents wasted attention--a valuable, finite resource dedicated to something meaningless and unrewarding. Note that I'm not suggesting that we never take breaks, daydream or even just goof off. (I'm a big fan of goofing off, in any number of ways.)

But breaks, daydreams and goofing off are all essential forms of play that allow us to recharge and refresh ourselves. Rubbernecking is just a waste, a state of useless vigilance that holds us in its grip until we're finally convinced that there's nothing to see here. And given that our focused attention is so taxing, powerful and limited, we waste it at our peril.

So what can we do? In addition to the three suggestions I made earlier this year, I'd add the following:

1) Resist the pull of social proof. Social psychologists call the phenomenon of being influenced by what others are paying attention to "social proof," and it's a compelling force. But social proof is a poor predictor of what's truly worthy of our attention; as Stanford professor Huggy Rao and his colleagues have written, "Reliance on heuristics such as social proof can often lead to overvaluation of the choice and regret about the decision." When we find ourselves drawn in on the basis of others' attention, we're probably rubbernecking.

2) Consider the Return On Attention. We talk endlessly about ROI, but what's the ROA in any given experience? What are we getting in exchange for this precious resource? Even when we're goofing off, we should be able to clearly identify the terms of the exchange--but if our answer to the question is, "Not much," or, worse, "I don't know," that's a sign that we're rubbernecking and should move along.

3) Improved emotional management. As is so often the case, emotions are central to our reasoning and decision-making processes, and our ability to focus our attention on what matters is directly related to our ability to be aware of and regulate our emotions. Note that management does not mean suppression; the better we can sense and understand our emotions, the more effectively we can articulate and express them. But when we're not in touch with our emotions, when our anxieties and frustrations are operating just beyond our conscious awareness, we're more likely to soothe ourselves by rubbernecking.

Photo by Ted Kerwin. Yay Flickr and Creative Commons.

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Date: Saturday, 07 Dec 2013 10:12

Jakob NielsenIn 2007 Jakob Nielsen wrote a compelling piece on Life-Long Computer Skills:

There is some value in teaching kids skills they can apply immediately, while they're still in school, but there's more value in teaching them deeper concepts that will benefit them forever, regardless of changes in specific applications.

Teaching life-long computer skills in our schools offers further benefit in that it gives students insights that they're unlikely to pick up on their own. In contrast, as software gets steadily easier to use, anyone will be able to figure out how to draw a pie chart. People will learn how to use features on their own, when they need them--and thus have the motivation to hunt for them. It's the conceptual things that get endlessly deferred without the impetus of formal education. [Emphasis original]

I was reminded of this yesterday as my MBA students at Stanford submitted their final papers for the Leadership Labs, a course in our core curriculum that I helped launch in 2007, just a few months after Nielsen published his article.

Nielsen's distinction between teaching features and teaching concepts transcends computer skills, of course. In general terms a "feature" is any subroutine that allows us to accomplish a task, from drawing a pie chart to leading a meeting. The technical task is much simpler than the interpersonal one, because people are more complex than software, but there's still a parallel: To accomplish a given task, we follow a set of steps that are likely to lead to success.

In contrast, a "concept" is a heuristic, not an algorithm. It's a more abstract--and more broadly applicable--set of ideas. The conceptual computer skills Nielsen discusses in his original article include search strategies, information credibility and user testing. Concepts we reference in LeadLabs include experiential learning, group dynamics and feedback.

Concepts don't tell us how to accomplish specific tasks. They help us predict outcomes, identify patterns, and understand why things are the way they are, but they don't lead step-by-step from Point A to Point B to success.

Here's the relevance to LeadLabs (and everything I do as an educator): Experiential learning works when teachers and learners have a common understanding about the difference between concepts and features. The MBAs who get the most out of LeadLabs are those who can generalize from the course's specific artifacts (role-plays, exercises, a group project) and begin to explore how the underlying concepts embedded in the experience might apply to other contexts, other teams, other tasks. When we're unable to help students see that we're trying to teach concepts, they understandably think we're trying (and failing) to teach features.

Complicating matters further is the fact that interpersonal issues and group dynamics are so unpredictable that even the most fundamental concepts can never be relied upon all of the time. We work overtime to derive neat, orderly concepts from our messy, disorderly experiences, but that's not quite possible, as William James knew all too well. And by definition experiential learning about groups and relationships occurs as the result of highly individualized (even unique) interactions between specific people.

But it's because human behavior can't be reduced to a set of algorithms that efforts to improve our understanding of relationships and group dynamics need to focus on teaching concepts, not features. Just as an understanding of technical concepts allows us to interact effectively with data while we learn the features of new software, an understanding of interpersonal concepts allows us to interact effectively with others as we learn the "features" of new organizations, new teams, new relationships.

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Date: Saturday, 07 Dec 2013 06:31

My posts at HBRMy latest post at HBR: Happy Workaholics Need Boundaries, Not Balance.

This is the second post in a series on "the problems of success." Here's the first: Learning to Say "No" Is Part of Success.

Many of my executive coaching clients and MBA students at Stanford are going through a transition that involves a step up to the next level in some way. They’re on the cusp of a big promotion, or they’ve launched a startup, or their company just hit some major milestone. Very few, if any, of these people would say that they’ve "made it"; they’re still overcoming challenges in pursuit of ambitious goals. And yet their current success has created a meaningful inflection point in their careers; things are going to be different from now on. The nature of this difference varies greatly from one person to another, but I see a set of common themes that I think of as "the problems of success."

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Date: Thursday, 28 Nov 2013 05:57

Alyson Madrigan and Kate Billing are two people who've taught me something about gratitude over the past few years. Alyson is a friend here in San Francisco I get to see every few months, while Kate is a consultant in New Zealand I've tweeted at but never met, and they've both made an effort to express and share their gratitude for things in life that most of us typically take for granted.

Alyson's nearing the end of a year-long project on #littlejoys, one post each day on something that brought her joy, like a view from a mountaintop in South Africa:

Kate's often posted about #3goodthings, usually accompanied by a photo of a note on which she describes three positive things that happened to her that day. One of my favorites includes 1) "Having our fab bus driver save us from certain death," 2) a "crazy intense thunder, lightning and hailstorm while I'm tucked up," and 3) a memorable Class of '84 reunion. I love it:

The Thanksgiving holiday is a perfect moment to be reminded of Alyson and Kate as I look back on this past year, because it's been a difficult one for me and Amy. We've both dealt with with physical ailments, professional challenges and personal frustrations, and we frequently just wanted 2013 to be OVER.

But while I can certainly get caught up in my mini-tragedies, I'm well aware of all the things I have to be thankful for on this day, which include...

  • Waking up without intense pain, a gift I never appreciated until it was taken away from me and, six months later, restored.
  • The full (if imperfect) use of four limbs, two eyes, two ears. My knees, my sight and a shoulder are fading, but they still get me through the day.
  • A childhood that instilled me with self-confidence and self-compassion.
  • The opportunity to enjoy an adult relationship with my parents and to see the world through their eyes.
  • Two brothers and their families who I love so intensely, who I am so proud of, whose success and happiness mean more to me than my own.
  • An astounding number of teachers and mentors, from high school to post-MBA, who took an interest in my growth and development.
  • The opportunity to be of service as a coach, to help others feel more fulfilled and effective in their professional lives.
  • My clients and students, who welcome me into such meaningful conversations and who provide a sense of purpose in my own professional life.
  • My own coach, Mary Ann Huckabay, who has made the difference in my life at so many important junctures.
  • And Amy, without whom none of the rest would matter at all.

Thank you.

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