It has been said that “a faith that costs little will accomplish little.” Considering the trends that are rapidly taking hold in our American culture, we might well find out how much our faith is worth to us individually in the amazingly near future.
Much has been made in recent days of privately-owned Christian businesses which are being targeted by everything from boycotts to lawsuits to legislation for various positions the ownership has taken. Chick-Fil-A was in the midst of a firestorm last year for comments made by one of the primary owners and officers of this 100% private company regarding the issue of the definition of marriage. Shortly thereafter, competing “boycotts” and “buy-cotts” and even a totally failed attempt at a gay “kiss-in” were the topic of the month all over the news and internet. Private evangelical university, Lynchburg, VA’s Liberty University (full disclosure: I am an employee of Liberty University) and craft and home accessory retail chain, “Hobby Lobby” have challenged different aspects of the so-called “Affordable Care Act” (aka “Obamacare”) which would require them to potentially provide abortion coverage in their health plans. A similar lawsuit has been filed on behalf of the Sisters of Charity — a Catholic association of nuns — which objects to the requirement to provide birth control which violates their Catholic tenants. In Arizona, Colorado and Washington State, multiple small business owners in the wedding industry have been sued and even run out of business because they want to deny services to homosexual “marriage” ceremonies. Thus far, the courts have been ruling against them with regularity. The Obama administration has unconstitutionally stopped defending the Family Protection Act which helped insure discrimination against those who do not want to be forced to violate their religious convictions.
The battles to stop government recognition of homosexual marriages has been lost. The momentum is too strong. The media and activists successfully categorized it as an “anti-gay” thing when the debate was really never anti-gay marriage, it was about having the government give legal recognition to a form of marriage unrecognized as legitimate for over 4,000 years of civilization. There have always been homosexuals and homosexual couples — that wasn’t the issue. It was about what it meant to define family. Those who stand for historical and Biblical morality lost.
Today, even some evangelicals have called into question whether or not a private business owner should have freedom to discriminate based on religious convictions. They are so interested in presenting a social reasonable definition of the Gospel that they are missing a bigger point. If private businesses are to have any freedoms at all apart from the dictates of the state, then the state needs to stay out of them. A private business owner who does not want to serve Christians or gays or Muslims because of their religious faith — even if it means they will ultimately not have sufficient income to survive as a business — should be allowed to do so without government prosecution. Should a Muslim-owned business be required to sell pornography because it is a “first amendment” issue to have freedom of the press? Should a Christian wedding photographer have to go to a gay strip club to record a homosexual wedding ceremony even if it violates their conscience to enter such an establishment? Should a gay florist be required to hire a fundamentalist Christian to arrange bouquets even though it might drive away potential customers? Where does the intrusion end? With clients and customers? What about with insurance and benefits? What about hiring and promotion? If religious organizations and private businesses aren’t free to live out their values, shouldn’t a private Christian school have to hire a lesbian PE Teacher? Shouldn’t a church be required to retain a pregnant youth worker? Would an atheist organization need to have a quote of evangelicals to demonstrate non-descrimination? These are the very issues at stake right now — both constitutional issues and moral/faith issues and they don’t just affect Christians such as me and many of you who read this blog.
But on to the bigger question…
When the day comes — and the day WILL come as it has come to other generations in other nations before us — will we be willing to take a stand that would require us to pay a price? Frankly, that might be just what the Lord has in mind for our future and it might not be an altogether bad thing. Granted, I’m not looking to be some sort of martyr or activist. My firebrand days are pretty much over. However, it is a worthy topic for conversation and thought. Would we, in fact, be willing to suffer loss, discrimination, opposition or worse for the values that come with our faith in Scripture and God.
Dead leaves and dead fish go with the flow. Taking a stand causes ripples and waves. Turn on a light and watch the cockroaches run for the shadows. Put some salt on ice and watch things start changing. Taking a stand on matters of propriety, morality, philosophy, ethics, values and conduct is going to exact some sort of price at the hands of those whose values are different than yours.
We should expect nothing less.
Years ago, my oldest son (now 26, but around 10-11 at the time) was on a city baseball league that made it to the playoffs. He was a pitcher and was scheduled to pitch one of the playoff games. The problem was that the game was scheduled for 10:00 on Sunday morning. At 10:00 on Sunday mornings, our family is in church. No exceptions. Everyone on the team knew that we didn’t miss Wednesday nights or Sunday services for baseball. Thus, he got there late and was a relief pitcher instead. Now a decade and a half later, I have no recollection whether or not we won the game, but we do still talk about taking a stand for our priorities as a family. We had told the coach that the first day of practice. Sometimes we’d come to a game right after church as it was a few innings old and sometimes we left a game a few innings early to get to church, but it was church first, baseball second. We didn’t ask for special consideration, we didn’t start a petition drive to change the game times, we didn’t gripe when it meant that he didn’t get to play as much. It was just the price of having priorities that were important to our family.
(I often wonder if all the professing Christians in the country had a priority scale that placed spiritual matters before athletic events, if sports leagues would not be forced to take that into consideration when scheduling games. I’m old enough to remember when they didn’t give homework on Wednesday nights so as not to interfere with Wednesday night church services and this was in PUBLIC SCHOOLS.)
Part of bearing the “shame” of the cross is to pay the price with patience that doing right costs us.
For years, I’ve watched Orthodox Jews refuse certain foods and walk rather than drive to places on the Sabbath without complaint because of their beliefs. I’ve seen Muslims stop and drop on their prayer rugs in the middle of airports during their pre-appointed prayer times. I recall Jehovah Witnesses not participating in Christmas parties at public schools and Seventh Day Adventists not being able to play ball games on Saturday because of their religion.
So my question for evangelical believers today is “When was the last time you paid a price for taking a stand?” So many of us seem bent on “blending in” so as not to “turn people off” and as a result — we’ve watered down the change that the Gospel should be having in our lives. Today, dropping swear words and consuming adult beverages with the boys is considered an act of cultural evangelism as we emphasize relevance over holiness. Our priorities are such that we adjust our lives around schedules that are filled with vacations, entertainment, recreation, work, athletics, etc… and if it is convenient, we’ll even slip a worship service or a ministry task in there from time to time….but as long as it doesn’t “cost” us too much. We’ll sit silently while someone defames our Savior’s name with staccato emphasis and yet, some Muslims are quite willing to behead you for drawing a cartoon of Muhammad. (I’m not suggesting we use violence, but do you think it is wholly inappropriate to request someone to stop staying “Jesus Christ!” as a curse in our presence and then kindly explaining why that name is special to you? Does the name of “Muhammad” have greater value than “Jesus”?)
If we are to be salt and light in the world, then it might just mean we get turned down for a job (I experienced this a few years ago — passed over for a job at a charter school in favor of someone significantly less qualified because my resume was “too religious” — something that is potentially illegal, but let’s face it….it happens.) We might have to turn off our cable in order to tithe or give to missions. We might not be invited out with the important business associates because we’re not going to play drinking games or hit the local strip club and that may effect our job evaluation. We might pull our kids out of an assembly or request an exemption from a certain course lecture or even not allow them to attend a certain party or school activity (ie…an amusement park’s “Night of Horrors” — something we faced in a Christian school in Miami that my children attended) and get labeled as “one of those” parents.
Right things are seldom easy and easy things are seldom right.
Just some things to ponder as we navigate this interesting culture in which we have called to be ambassadors and in which we are called to be ‘aliens’.
Recently, I’ve been doing some reading regarding unhealthy and even dangerous assemblies which call themselves “churches”, but which possess characteristics that defy the healthy components of a church we see discussed throughout the Book of Acts and many of the Pauline epistles. Just for the sake of discussion, I offer a few warning signs of what I would call unhealthy churches. Perhaps after reading these you might want to debate some of my conclusions or add a few warning signs of your own.
1. Does your church leadership tightly control the flow of information within its ranks suggesting that anything that is negative or which questions something is ‘rebellious’ or ‘gossip’?
2. Does the pastor use public shaming as a method to gain the compliance of followers or does he use the pulpit as a place to “call out” individuals who have crossed him?
3. Are all the previous pastors “unwelcome” back to where they once served and is there a rather regular cycle of pastoral resignations or dismissals marked by infrequent long-term pastoral ministries?
4. Is the pastor of the church the exclusive means of knowing “truth” or interpreting Scripture?
5. Does the pastor and leadership foster an attitude that frequently suggests that it is “them/us” against “the world” and that outsiders are constantly “out to get them”.
6. Are you instructed to dis-associate with any former members, being warned that they are “evil” or “back-slidden” and to be avoided and/or shunned?
7. Is leaving your group to join another church equal to leaving God?
8. Is the power of the church held by a single person (usually the pastor) or in a board that is unaccountable or outside of a defined Biblical role or office? Does the governing board act like a board of directors more than a board of spiritual advisement and leadership or accountability?
10. Are there a significant number of related parties that serve on the governing board or on the ministry staff?
11. Do you sense fear of rebuke or retaliation for respectfully voicing a contrary opinion or position? Is there a freedom to disagree agreeably on non-doctrinal matters of lesser significance?
12. Is there a pattern of an inability to get along with others you would clear identify as members of the body of Christ but who may not hold all of the same position on non-doctrinal issues?
13. Is there an unusual allegiance to a school/university, association, fellowship, tradition or “camp” which promotes a sense of spiritual superiority for those in the “group” and a disdain or spiritual deficit among those who aren’t?
14. Are the primary sermons more often personal diatribes or topical addresses that reflect the position of the pastor or association rather than expositional studies and explanations that examine the Scripture?
15. Are there political, financial, educational or other non-Biblical demands made of the membership in order to fit within the fellowship or to be eligible for leadership?
This list is not intended to be exhaustive, but simply to open some discussion. Feel free to jump in and share your thoughts. What did I miss and where am I off base. The lines are open for your calls!
Some have asked me if I’m supporting the upcoming movies about “Noah” and “The Son of God”. I don’t care much one way or the other if people go as long as they know that historically, Hollywood does a LOUSY job of accurately portraying Scripture on the big screen. As for me, I don’t plan on seeing either movie at a theater, if ever. The church where I serve as a pastor isn’t using the movies as some sort of evangelistic outreach as many churches are. I have been reminded of an article that I wrote about 7 years ago wherein a “rethought” my participation in the great “Passion of Christ” movie debut in which I coined the phrase, “Pimping for Hollywood”. This article and the phrase were latter cited in Warren Smith’s excellent book, “A Lover’s Quarrel with the Evangelical Church”. Because there are some similarities, I thought I’d post a link to that article here:
We gave up sending Christmas cards several years ago. With the popularity of Facebook, blogs and Twitter, it was one of those traditions that just seemed easy to discontinue along with our home telephone landline. Instead, I like to use this blog to catch up with our friends and family who might be interested in a quick synopsis of our year.
The Lord is always better to us than we deserve and 2013 has been no exception. The absolute highlight of our year was the arrival of sweet Ellie, our first grandchild. Her debut was in April, and after putting mom through 33 hours of labor, she was well worth the wait! Justin and Megan are wonderful first-time parents and we love the fact that they live not far from us which allows us regular Poppy and Mimi time. She has the best qualities of both her mommy and dad and at this point, has zero…I mean ZERO bad qualities. :-) I’ve turned into “that grandpa” and find myself scrolling through my own facebook photos just to look at her.
Other than her arrival, we actually had quite a quiet year — and we’re not complaining.
Julie continues to be the best mom ever to our two remaining homesters. She taught a Bible study at our church, Life Fellowship last Spring and this Fall. She spends a lot of time on the road shuttling two teenagers back and forth to work and to their other activities. She loves it when Justin and Megan have to work out of town together and she gets to be Mimi for a day or so keeping an eye on Ellie. She’s definitely the favored grandparent on the Burrell side and if I’m holding Ellie when she walks by, there is a sudden (and sometimes loud) request for a transfer of possession. But once she gets old enough to spoil……things will be different!
I continues my work as Executive Pastor at Life Fellowship Church and as a Professor and Faculty Mentor for Liberty University. Working two full-time jobs doesn’t leave me a lot of spare time, but that’s a good thing as I’d get in trouble if I didn’t stay busy. I was asked to develop a couple of classes for Liberty and did an on-campus course last January. The church is in the middle of a $6,000,000 construction project which I’m overseeing so 2014 promises to be busy as well on the church side. I enjoyed taking missions trips to Cuba and Vietnam this year and will visit Cuba again in 2014 as I enter my 12th year of working with national pastors there. I’ve been invited back to Vietnam to teach for two weeks in 2015 and am already looking forward to that. I had a few minor health issues this year mostly due to age and not enough exercise (who has time for THAT), but other than a few aches and pains from aging and an “old man fall” I took in the driveway last fall, I’m doing great.
Nathan has returned to Charlotte and gotten off the road for work. He has his own place in town and works in a nice restaurant in Ballantyne. We enjoy seeing him regularly though he’s putting in a ton of hours. He still likes to hoop it up when he gets a chance though he’s starting to realize that middle-age can sneak up on someone quite quickly.
Megan and Justin’s business, Gambol Photography has really exploded this year and they do a lot of weddings and family photography. They’ve won several awards for their work and are in the process of hiring a couple of assistants so that they can double their booking schedule. They traveled with us to Missouri for the 4th of July holiday and have made several trips to Lynchburg to see Justin’s family. They are active at our church and so it’s good to catch Sunday lunch with them many weeks.
Katie is seventeen and still working at Chick-Fil-A. She took Driver’s Ed this year and we’ve located a special college in Wisconsin she’s hoping to attend in a year or two if everything works out for her. She often does volunteer work at church and stays pretty busy socially with a few very close friends. She’s a master at Facebook and other social media connection points and likes keeping in touch with her friends and family that way.
Josh is sixteen and continues to home school via Liberty Online. Every afternoon, he goes to work at a local dry-cleaners that is close enough to our house for him to walk to it. He is Mr. Personality and knows just about every neighbor for blocks around. The good part of that is that he often gets hired to do odd jobs for them. He also volunteers at church and takes a big load off of dad every Sunday by helping him get everything set up and organized.
We took our bi-annual trip to Missouri last summer to visit my family. It’s always great to see my mom, sisters and their clans. We do a big cook-out and fireworks thing on the fourth and spend a lot of time eating, fishing, shooting and enjoying country living. In June, I was invited to return to our former church in West Palm Beach, Grace Fellowship, to be a guest speaker as they are without a pastor at this time. Julie and I had such a great time seeing old friends and making new ones. We returned to WPB in November for the wedding of a dear friend and I was able to reconnect with some friends whom I first met 20 years ago in Albania and who are now all U. S. citizens and remain wonderful parts of our lives. I was asked to stay over and speak at Grace Fellowship again and to help with the dedication of their new campus expansion property which we prayed for when we lived there in the 80′s and 90′s. It felt like home and we truly enjoyed it. From time to time, we spend a few days at our lake house in Lake Lure, but it is difficult to spend as much time as we’d like there due to the kid’s schedule and work.
As we reflect on God’s goodness to us this year and throughout our lives, we are humbled to be part of His family, to enjoy so much in our daily lives and we anticipate the future with absolute confidence in His Sovereign plan for us on this earth and in eternity. We’d love to hear from each of you as you are able. We are all on Facebook, I am on twitter and I will warn you up front, putting nonsense on my social network is a bad habit of mine, so brace yourself if you decide to connect.
May the Lord bless you and your family in the year to come!
Dan, Julie, Katie and Josh
In one of the most insane moves since Coke introduced “New Coke” to a fan base that didn’t want corporate eggheads messing with the things they enjoyed, A&E announced tonight that they are suspending Duck Dynasty star and patriarch Phil Robertson for personal remarks he made opposing homosexuality. Instantly, the twitterverse lit up with boycotts, outrage and disgust — similar to that found when the LBGT extremists took on Chick-Fil-A because the founder also expressed his personal opinions.
Once again, the public is shown that “tolerance” is a one-way street and the First Amendment doesn’t apply to those who dare refuse the group think of political correctness. Every time the Human Rights Campaign, GLAAD or any other LBGTQ spokesmen gets the vapors over someone daring to question their lifestyle choices, some corporate scaredy cat freaks and throws freedom of speech, freedom of religion and the right to free expression of unpopular thoughts or opinions under the bus faster than one can say “Rosie O’Donnell”.
Hopefully, the rocket-scientist dropouts at A&E will get a hopper-full of email post haste which might drive them to their senses. Care to drop the fine folks in charge an email expressing your opinion (while you still can without getting kicked off the internet)? Here’s the contact email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Here’s a list of the A&E Stations: http://www.aenetworks.com/contact
Here’s a link to the article announcing the decision: http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/live-feed/duck-dynastys-phil-robertson-indefinite-666808
Last night, my Facebook feed lit up during the football games — not with crowing by Auburn fans, but in shock from Paul Walker fans. He was a Hollywood actor tragically killed in a fiery car crash yeasterday afternoon in Santa Clarita, CA.
Frankly, having never seen a single “Fast and Furious” movie, I had never heard of him, but a lot of people really enjoyed his acting apparently. I wanted to learn a bit more about him, so I did some searching and came across this article. Walker professed to be a Christian and even shared his testimony. Apparently, a major factor in his spiritual life was the education that he received at an evangelical Christian school. As one who has spent over 30 years in Christian education at every level from classroom teaching to administration to graduate school professor, this was an important reminder to me.
Some of the students in our classrooms will grow up to be quite influential people. Few people know that rocker Marilyn Manson attended a Christian school in Canton, Ohio for a time. I knew one of his teachers. Of course, he didn’t go by “Marilyn” at the time. Shannon Breem from FOXNews fame graduated from North Florida Christian School in Tallahassee which was a prominent school in the association I served as President (FACCS) and she also attended Liberty University where I teach. For better or worse, many students will pass through the classrooms of Christian schools around the world. I’m so proud of many of the students who have been in one of my classes or schools in the past as they have become leaders of influence as adults. I doubt that many thought Paul Walker would grow up to be a celebrity when he was a typical, punky teen in a Christian school — but he left his mark with his career and now with his death.
To all who teach young people in schools, public, private or Christian, I’m reminded of the great privilege it is to do so. I used to have a speech that I gave to teacher’s conventions years ago entitled, “The Hand that Holds the Chalk, Shapes the Future”. We may use dry-erase markers in today’s classrooms, but the principle is still the same.
Paul Walker looked back on his education at a Christian school as the base of his spiritual training that moved him away from Mormonism into a real relationship with Christ. I hope his fans are consoled by that fact and my many friends in Christian education are challenged by it.
The late motivational speaker, Charlie “Tremendous” Jones used to say, “You will be the same in ten years as you are today, except for the books you read and the people you meet.” That has always been true in my life and I’ve kept a list of the Top Ten most important books I’ve read and Top Ten most life-changing people I’ve met over the years. Today, marks a 20-year “anniversary” of a friendship that many would have considered “unlikely” for both of us. It is a friendship with a person who ranks in my “Top Ten” of people who have changed my life.
My friend, Candy Hatcher, reminded me over the week-end that it was 20 years ago today that I wrote a rather “pointed” “letter to the editor” in The Palm Beach Post that was published. I took substantial umbrage from what I felt at the time was an unfair characterization of the “Religious Right” in Florida politics. Candy was a special features writer (and an excellent one at that) who would do series on tough topics ranging from deficits in the Child Protective Services program in the state, to issues of crime and punishment and on this occasion, into politics. I’m known to have a sharp pen at times. I defend myself by noting that no one reads boring prose. Others will point out that the pen can be mightier, and even more painful, than the sword. I will confess that I have swung back and forth on how to reach a balance on that observation for years. I still have a level of writing dualism that can be both offensive and effective, so the journey continues.
To my surprise, within hours after publication of my letter, I received a phone call from none other than Ms. Hatcher asking to come sit with me in my office and discuss my letter. Oh….and she was bringing her editor. It was the beginning of a friendship. The meeting was emotional. We both left that meeting and those that would follow with a broader perspective of those who might be on their other side of some imaginary fence politically and professionally. I hope I changed the way she viewed pastors and people who sincerely hold to an evangelical/fundamental view of Scripture. I know she changed the way I viewed journalists and those who might be a bit more left of the political center than I had previously experienced.
A lot has changed in twenty years. Neither of us still live in Florida. Candy got married to a great guy the week of 9/11 and her professional life has taken her to Seattle, to Chicago and now to Virginia and she continues to do the kind of writing that she’s best at — human interest stories that poke you in the heart and punch you in the brain. As for me, I’ve distanced myself from most of the political connections I’ve previously had and while I am still keenly aware of (and vocal about) political matters, it’s more of a hobby with me and no longer a cause. I don’t know this to be a fact, but I hope our friendship has provided Candy with a window into the world of conservative evangelicals in general and the pastor’s perspective in particular. She has earned my respect professionally and personally though I’m sure we differ on things politically still. I hope I have earned enough respect from her where she can see that conservative Christians really want a lot of the same things that more liberal people do, we just differ significantly on who should take the lead on achieving those solutions.
I wanted to list a few things I have learned from this friendship today. Because of that initial interaction, I have changed my behavior when I am at odds with an opposing view point. Since that day, I’ll have lunch with gay and lesbian activists, I have had good conversations with my US Representative and mayor (now Governor of NC) on areas in which we disagreed, I have allowed myself to even be interviewed by so-called “alternative” magazines like Creative Loafing and survived the experience and actually enjoyed the interaction with the reporter and I find myself more anxious to talk about differences personally than simply lobbing missives across cyberspace.
Here’s some of what I learned:
1. Those who don’t think like me are more like me than I realized.
Journalists are people too. They have feelings, they have hobbies, they live in neighborhoods and they are just trying to do their job most of the time. I’m still convinced there is a leftward bias over-all, but I’ve changed as to why I think that is the case. I think it is because too few journalists know conservatives in general (and conservative Christians specifically) and many Christians are so cloistered in their own little community, we have no occasion to interact with others who don’t think just like us. But I’ve enjoyed discussing travel with a leading gay activist in our community, I enjoyed debating philosophy with a lesbian Unitarian pastor at a luncheon, I have appreciated learning of how others go about helping others who are in need even if we likely vote completely opposite. In the end, we’ve got families, friends, hobbies and interests that form bridges of communication and friendship and that’s important whether we are on the same side of other issues or not. And when I realized how we conservatives are viewed by those left of center, I understand why they might not want to have lunch with us. That coin of perception has two sides and both of them aren’t accurate.
2. It’s foolish to believe stereotypes.
My “liberal” journalist friend, Candy — she’s been a Baptist about as long as I’ve been a Baptist. All journalists are not atheists. Most of them love God, their church and their country. And lest you be tempted to lump then together with a few bomb throwers on cable news or the internet, let’s not do that so we don’t have to be lumped in with the likes of Benny Hinn or Mark Sanford. I think Candy discovered that evangelical Christians don’t want a theocracy. They aren’t trying to control everything. Not every pro-lifer silently cheers when someone does something outrageous outside of an abortion clinic. We aren’t intent on thumping people with Bibles and we’re not some sort of evangelical Taliban. We just love God, our family and our country — in that order. We want a healthy place to raise our kids. But then, so do journalists. We each probably make really good neighbors, in fact.
3. Talking is better than shouting.
On this day when Washington is in absolute lockdown/gridlock, would to God that they would/could put aside the partisanship that makes the capitol so toxic and just sit down and have a decent conversation and look for agreement. I might have a penchant for verbal firebombs and even people like Ann Coulter and Stephen Colbert can make me snicker a bit with their acerbic wit. But let’s be honest….it does nothing positive. Nothing. It just creates walls. No one is ever going to be convinced to change because of shouted rhetoric and heated diatribes. The world would likely be better off if the talking heads at both MSNBC and Fox News would simply shut up.
4. You learn more from your critics than from your “friends”.
Both pastors and journalists can have a tribe of people who constantly feed them complements and blow petals of good will their direction. We also can get roasted by incendiary blasts of criticism that would make a steel girder wilt. But sometimes, those critics tell us what others don’t have the courage — or the observational skills — to tell us. Every so often I’ll pop off on Facebook or in some blog article or whatever that Candy will read and she’ll shoot me back a sharp little retort. She’s almost always right. I spouted some nonsense about a columnist from the Orlando Sentinel one time without reading the article thoroughly and Candy called me on it and made me look like the fool I really was. (Thank you, knee-jerk reaction — once again, you’ve delivered humiliation to me.) We can learn from everyone if we’re not too arrogant and bone-headed to realize that perceptions are as powerful as reality and that we’re not always right about every single thing that comes down the pike. Candy has earned the right to bust my chops when I need it and I hope I’m a more careful thinker and writer because of it.
5. Disagreement doesn’t have to be personal.
Now, anyone who knows me, knows that I have a tendency to run toward debates, not away from them. I love hardscrabble verbal exchanges. Until, of course, they become personal. Then it isn’t fun anymore. When I make someone cry because I’m being a jerk, it haunts me for weeks. When I get defensive about something, I find that it can make me isolate or get bitter. What happened? It got personal. Sometimes it’s OK to just shrug one’s shoulders and say, “I see it differently” and then move on. Not every disagreement has to be blown up to theological or philosophical proportions. So you like Obamacare. I don’t. Doesn’t make you morally superior because you care about those that fall between the cracks. It doesn’t make me morally superior because I believe in smaller government, free enterprise and rugged individualism. It just means we see it differently. Next topic?
6. Good friendships don’t have to have proximity to endure.
I love the internet age. Via social media, email and other new-fangled tools, we get to stay connected. You can criticize Facebook all you want and act like you are too sophisticated to enjoy it, but I like it. (And I bet you are a Facebook stalker yourself if the truth be known.) I like hearing how my former students are doing, who is having kids, who is running a business, who needs prayer and who is enjoying success. I haven’t seen Candy in over a decade — in spite of the fact that I keep asking her and her husband to swing by when they come back to her home state of North Carolina. But a couple of years ago, I was awake in the middle of the night, struggling with the state of my life at that moment and feeling pretty cruddy about things, when I got an email. (I just happened to be online at the time.) It was an email from Candy. She told me at about 4:00 in the morning that she had me on her mind for some reason and experience told her that when that happened, she should pray for whomever the Lord had placed in her thoughts. So she just wrote to tell me that I was in her prayers. I can’t tell you how much that meant to me. I mean, I’m the dude that blasted her work in a public diatribe. She hadn’t seen me in years. Yet, she not only was sensitive enough to God’s voice in her life to realize He was speaking to her, she let me know that we were good enough friends that she would resp0nd by praying for me. Now that’s a friend.
There’s more that I could share that I’ve learned, but I’m leaving for Vietnam in a few hours. I wanted to post this before I leave and because it was the anniversary of my letter. Here’s what’s cool. Everyone who knows me knows that I love Cuba and go there often for ministry. Candy and John love Cuba and go there for ministry as well. Guess who sent me a Facebook message this week telling me that she was praying for me as I go to Vietnam? Yep….Candy Hatcher Gregor. She’s my “liberal” (and she really isn’t all that liberal — I just like to tease her) journalist friend and she’s my prayer partner. I’m her “thinking fundamentalist” friend (and no, that term is not oxymoronic in my case— usually, at least) and I’m her prayer partner when she and/or her husband go to the mission field. I’m so glad she didn’t just ditch my opinion in her “stupid critics” file that day twenty years ago. I know if she had, I would be a far different person than I am today. And that wouldn’t have been a good thing.
I’ve watched interesting subjects, content-rich seminars, lectures by fascinating people and important messages that needed to be communicated all go down in flames as the individual responsible for delivering the presentation takes exciting material and turns it into something about as exciting as watching paint dry. It likes watching someone torture a kitten — just senseless and sad (and a bit enraging.) Today I present to you five sure-fire ways to kill a public presentation.
1. Read to your audience
Nothing says to a group of people, “I consider you to be dullards who are too lazy to learn on your own” than droning on and on by reading your presentation to them or by reading long quotations from others to them. It is quite acceptable to insert (and read) a brief quote, maybe even a salient paragraph, from a renowned expert for emphasis and content enrichment. But c’mon — don’t write your entire speech out and then drone on over it. If you are going to do that, just print out copies for everyone. Distribute them as they walk through the door and dismiss them shortly thereafter. And for anyone who would mention that piece of lore that “Jonathan Edwards read ‘Sinners in the Hands of an Angry God’.” to his audiences, I would say — 1) Don’t believe everything you read on the internet, 2) You aren’t Jonathan Edwards and 3) your audience isn’t a bunch of puritans who have never been exposed to such modern niceties as TV, radio, the internet, public libraries, Twitter, etc…. Trust me on this one. Reading your speech will result in subtle evacuations as people pretend to get a phone call or even a call from Mother Nature, just to escape your unimaginative (and lazy) efforts.
2. Don’t Move
You will not find a single public speaking guide that encourages you to stay in one spot as if someone had super-glued your Chuck Taylor’s to the floor. Motion attracts attention and reduces focal fixations which lead to mental “checkouts”. Move around, flail your arms if necessary, bend over, kneel down, do laps around the podium if necessary — but keep the audience watching you and wondering what you are about to do next. Or you can simply stand still enough that spiders will build webs between you and the lectern while birds build nests in your hair.
3. Don’t Use Illustrations
I’ve heard some say that using illustrations prevents you from spending more time on content and that the audience should be disciplined enough to just sit there and take in the information. This is kind of like announcing to your staff that “beatings will continue until morale improves.” Even Mary Poppins understood that “just a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down.” Illustrations provide connection points, application examples, mental breaks and personal interaction with the audience. Next time you are listening to a public speaker, watch the reaction of the audience when he/she uses a personal illustration. You’ll see heads come up, attention shift, people will lean slightly forward, facial expressions will take an an aura of anticipation and the room dynamics will completely shift. I’ll offer more suggestions in this area in a future article.
4. Keep your voice even
Don’t allow for passion. Keep the tone mono. Don’t fluctuate volume, speed or intensity. Seriously. Do. Not. Do. It. You’ll awaken them from their naps. THEN you might have to actually be involved with them. We wouldn’t want that, would we?
5. Ignore your audience
If people are nodding off, that’s THEIR problem, amIright? They should be eager to listen. It’s obviously a sign of poor character and intellectual laziness. If people stop coming to your seminars, sermons, lessons, etc…, well, obviously it’s because they can’t handle substantive teaching, right? If you see people playing “Candy Crush” and “Angry Birds” on their iPhones — it’s just one more demonstration that the fall of civilization is just around the corner. Heaven forbid that the speaker might actually notice that he/she is losing their audience and do something creative to inspire interest or connection. All you are required to do is get through the material and fill up the time.
Hopefully, you aren’t trying to kill your presentation, nor your audience when you are engaged in public speaking. Being aware of your audience and the responsibility you have as the speaker to engage them will change your delivery and challenge you to try different techniques to make them leave your presentation wondering where they time went and wishing they could have gotten just a little bit more.
Dan Burrell holds a Doctorate in Educational Leadership and is a former classroom teacher, current college professor and past-president of the Florida Association of Christian Colleges and Schools. He has co-authored two books for teachers and has extensive experience in training classroom teachers, story tellers and communicators around the world.
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Whether you are teaching a class of wiggly 3-year olds or speaking to an audience of thousands, communicating important content to the listeners is a responsibility that the speaker needs to embrace and fulfill. If we are to be at maximum influence, we will need to plan in advance for the delivery from start to finish. Here are five key objectives that you should strive to accomplish by the conclusion of your presentation and they are easy to remember thanks to “Old MacDonald”.
It is important that you have a clear awareness of your mission when you take your place in front of those who have gathered to hear what you have to say. You are there to change the status quo. You are to add value to the listener’s life by educating them with new material, practical application, challenges and ideals. If your audience leaves the room with no new knowledge, skill or aspiration, then you have failed as a communicator.
What will your listeners take home after your have addressed them? This is sometimes called the objective and the best way to identify that objective is to complete this question, “As a result of this lesson, my students/audience will know/be able to ________________.” If you do not know what it is you are wanting to accomplish in your presentation, don’t count on the students to be able to pick it out on their own. I like to use a simple three-step plan for helping my students identify my key point(s):
- Tell them what you are going to tell them (Introduction)
- Tell then (Lesson)
- Tell them what you told them (Review)
Emphasizing that main point those three times will help ensure that your students get your point.
There are few crimes greater in my book, than to bore people with Truth. There simply is no excuse for a dry presentation. The distance between dry information and exciting application is about 18 inches — the distance between the head and the heart. If you only focus on transferring information without ever acknowledging the human impact of that information, you will have an audience that will have checked out to varying degrees. Jesus, the Master Teacher, used everything from stories to recitations to sarcasm to object lessons to soaring prose to mystery to keep the attention of His audience throughout the Gospels. We should learn from His example. Laughter, dramatic tension and emotion are all tools that will help move Truth from the head and into the heart.
If you entertain and educate, but fail to inspire, you did not complete your task. Inspiration is what moves people to ACT on what they have learned. It moves people to APPLY what they have heard. It challenges them to ASPIRE to something greater than what they have been doing. It is lazy to transfer raw information and then fail to challenge the listener to use that information in use what they have learned for the good of others and the glory of God.
Rare is the individual who can successful “wing” an effective presentation. There needs to be a plan to what you are saying and how you plan on saying it. Don’t even think about simply reading your presentation, but having an outline is essential. And like writing a paragraph, a paper or a book, having an outline is important. Capture their attention and imagination in the introduction. Deliver the content in the body. Review and challenge the audience to greatness in the conclusion. Once you know the outline, then you can fill in the “extras” — the illustrations, the applications, the inspirational moments, the calls to action.
E-I-E-I-O — it’s simply and its effective. Take a few extra minutes and make sure you round out your next presentation with all five goals.
Public speakers in general and teachers specifically would do well to identify their voice as their own, personal musical instrument — complete with amplifier! Like anyone who plays an instrument, practice makes perfect and the better you learn how to use that instrument — the more beauty and inspiration will flow from it. Today, I’d like for you to consider how you can use your voice to be a wonderful communicative instrument which can literally be used to transform thinking and inspire action. Here are today’s “Five Tips“…
1. Speed Matters
Our minds can process information far faster than we can speak or hear it. If you’ve ever sat in a lecture where the speaker takes forever to spit out a coherent sentence (and boy, have I ever heard some vocal sloths in my day), then you might have found yourself writing a grocery list, looking for your iPhone to check your messages, counting the burned out light bulbs and the number of ceiling tiles or any other mental exercise that might keep you from jumping to your feet and screaming, “Just say it already, will ya!” Some studies have indicated that even an average speaker will offer a vocal pace of somewhere between 125-150 words per minute but you can think/hear at between 600-700. So many of us have time to hear what is being said, apply it, debate it, take the car down for an oil change and return all in our mind by the time that most people get finished with a paragraph. By contrast, some of us are rapid speakers. I often joke that I cruise at about 450 wpm with sudden gusts up to 600 wpm so if you wear a hair piece, it’s generally a good idea to set near the back when I’m speaking, lest something get blown off. If you have to choose between slow or fast, always choose fast. It keeps the listener “working” to stay up and thus you keep their attention. It helps prevent having the listeners fight with a wandering mind. It actually impacts the listeners physiologically and studies have shown that respiration rates and even heart rates increase when the speaker delivers his/her content more rapidly. So rev it up, my friends! Put the pedal to the metal and let it roar!
2. Tone Matters
When your momma’ told you the story of “The Three Bears”, did all three of the bears sound exactly the same? Of course not (unless you had the worst mom EVER!). Daddy bear had a big gruff voice, momma bear had a sweet, kind voice and baby bear had a high, squeaky voice — and it made the story FAR more interesting than if they had each sounded like Ben Stein. Changing and shifting your tone by pushing various amounts of air across your vocal chords can be used to add gravitas, indicate differences in “voice” during dialogues, create dramatic tension, lull people into somnambulance (Look it up) or provide humorous variation. Practice this at home. It works.
3. Pitch Matters
You can make your voice go up or you can make your voice go down. Have you ever known anyone who ends each sentence with the last word going up? It sounds like every sentence is turned into a question. When you drive your pitch down, every sentence becomes a command. Like the flautist who can run her flute up to trills or down to single note punctuations, we can use our voice up and down to create variety, implications and even unasked questions.
4. Volume Matters
Even you speak at a volume that would drown out the roar of a space ship taking off, you are going to exhaust your audience. If you speak at the volume of a church mouse at a funeral, you will also exhaust your audience. That’s why varying the level of your volume is important. I’m old and cranky — I do NOT like to be shouted at. I’m old and cranky — I don’t want to have to work at hearing you and it’s embarrassing to keep having to shout “HUH?” or “WHAT?” at someone who is giving a public lecture. But a little emphatic vocal punctuation or a dropping of the volume which requires me to lean forward a bit and to put a little more effort forward to hear what is being said provides a variety that keeps me engaged. When telling a story, making a point, creating drama — volume is one of your most effective tools to draw the listener in so that they will be engaged with your content.
5. Intensity Matters
Combining all of the previous four matters to reflect intensity in your presentation. If you are in front of a group speaking, there really should be a purpose. If not, sit down and let someone else get up that has something to say. Having a sense of urgency when speaking sends a signal to your listeners that you are worthy of their listening time. Use your voice to communicate intensity. Passion is a good thing. It can make the difference in a Presidential Election (Bush vs. Kerry) and (Obama vs. McCain). Ask yourself if you feel what you are saying is important. If not, either shut up or change what you are saying until it IS important. If it is important — then make it seem that way. Create a vocal intensity that says to your listeners, “Come over here and lean in. I’ve got something to tell you that will make your life better. It is a great thought. You can use this as an effective tool. It is an important principle. It will help you succeed. Some might think of it as mundane – but I’m here to tell you it will CHANGE. YOUR. LIFE!” Do you not think if you create that level of intensity in your audience and portray that level of urgency in your presentation you will have a room of eager listeners who will be wanting to hang on your EVERY word. You bet. Take it to the bank. And when you are finished, they will be begging for more.
Dan Burrell holds a Doctorate in Educational Leadership and is a former classroom teacher, current college professor and past-president of the Florida Association of Christian Colleges and Schools. He has co-authored two books for teachers and has extensive experience in training classroom teachers, story tellers and communicators around the world.
It is interesting how quickly one misbehaving kid can simultaneously terrorize a timid teacher and destroy whatever good things have been planned or are going on in a classroom. It really doesn’t take that long. A huge belch, leaning back in a chair until you crash backwards, launching a sneeze that registers on the Richter Scale, a flicked pencil that sticks precariously in another students hair — it really doesn’t take a lot of time for any of that to happen and it can take many minutes to regain control. Today’s teaching tips are ways to improve the behavior of your students while you are teaching.
1. If you find it boring, your students will find it boring, so here’s a clue — “Don’t tolerate boring stuff.”
Every topic under the sun can have the life drained from it or can be polished and presented in a way to make kids go “Ah” and “Oooo”. The difference is in who is presenting the material and how they are presenting it. There is no topic that cannot be turned into something fun, interesting, challenging or creative with a little bit of instructor imagination and effort. The rule of thumb is that if you find what you are teaching to be dull, dry and dusty, your students will find it to be the same. Sell the sizzle and they’ll buy the steak!
2. Isolate problem students by keeping them out of the sight-line of others.
Most misbehaving students are performers. Take away their audience and they’ll lose interest in entertaining. Many teachers foolishly think that if they put them “right up front where they can keep an eye on them” that it is going to solve the problem. Well, then don’t you dare turn around to put something on the whiteboard or go over to another student’s desk to see who they are doing. As soon as you are “out of range” — the party will commence again. I once saw a teacher who had a particularly problematic student bring a dressing screen which she set up to the side of the classroom and put a desk in the isolation area it created where she could see the student, but no one else could. If a parent objects to their child being singled out, then ask the parent if they would be willing to come in and sit with their child. They’ll reconsider their objection.
3. Break your teaching time into rational increments which allows for intellectual and physical breaks.
Only the most interesting teacher can lecture for 45 minutes without a break and keep the attention of all their students — and I’ve yet to meet that teacher. Most of us can’t sit for that long, what makes us think that a hormonal 13-year old can? (Remember the rule of thumb on attention spans: 1 minute per year of age.) Break your lesson into bite-sized increments. Five minutes of review, 10 minutes of introducing the objective, illustrate using visuals or a demonstration for 10 minutes, discuss for 10 minutes, practice for 10 minutes, review for five minutes. And if you’ll allow me a moment to rant –
Don’t treat your boys like they are girls.
Boys don’t learn like girls. Girls don’t behave like boys. Tell all the progressive social engineers to get over it. Boys wiggle and squirm and act impulsively and show off in front of girls and break things and blurt out inappropriately. They are not being “discipline problems” just because they don’t sit with their hands folded neatly in their laps with their ankles touching each other while nodding approvingly at the wisdom that cascades from your highly-educated lips. And what do we do in America today when a little boy acts like little boys for 6,000 years have acted? We run for the adderall and ritalin. Yes….rather than try to channel that energy, passion and zeal — let’s just drug them into submission. How about let’s get creative, provide outlets, vary our teaching methods and quit being so dang politically correct and meet this little guys right where they are and train them instead of dope them? [End Rant] (Note: I realize that there are rare cases where medications are necessary to help some children, but those are extremely RARE. If my rant offended you, let’s both just assume that it is YOUR kid that really needs the pills so I can save you having to write a comment or email.)
4. Have more material than you have time.
Idle time and all that….it really is true. If you don’t have enough to keep the hour full, why not? Have a bag full of tricks that you can always pull out if you end up having extra time. Illustrations, demonstrations, games, drills, reviews, visuals, songs, Q and A’s, video clips, etc…. Keep a drawer full of them available. One thing’s for sure, if you don’t have something planned for the entire class hour, the students will find a way to fill those minutes quite nicely…..but you aren’t going to like the outcome.
5. When punishing, make sure that the pain of the consequence outweighs the pleasure of the conduct.
Gone are the days when if you got in trouble at school, you got in trouble all over again at home such as it was when I was a young’un. Now, you are as likely as not to get an angry phone call or a letter from a lawyer if you dare discipline a student. I get that. But don’t be intimidated by threats. Stand your ground. If they cheat…give them a zero. If they talk…let them miss a break or enjoy a silent lunch. If they curse….a nice essay might be in order. But make sure that those little angels don’t have an easy decision when they weigh the potential consequences of their devious actions with the thrill of the execution of said actions. I didn’t have to get spanked a whole lot when I was growing up. The reason for that was because when I did get spanked, it was an ordeal and not one that I wanted repeated anytime in the near future. Whatever your punishment (or if you are politically correct — “consequence”) of choice is, make sure that it exacts a sufficient reaction that will call into question the wisdom of trying that little trick ever again.
I’m forcing myself to stop at five each day so I don’t overwhelm anyone. There’s a hundred more that could be shared. Keep an eye out on this blog however. There’s more to come. If you haven’t been keeping up, go backwards. Also, feel free to forward these to your friends, post them on your facebook/twitter/instagram feed and link me to your blog. Thanks for the good feedback I’ve already received!
1. Poor Attention Getters
When you are ready to start your lesson, often you will have to gain everyone’s attention. This can be quite a challenge if you have several dozen or even several hundred young people who are enjoying the company of their peers prior to your arrival. Some of the least effective ways to get the attention of your charges are as follows:
- SSSSShhhhhhing — Never “Shush” your children. They will ignore you, it is more irritating than the chattering and it makes you sound like you’ve sprung a leak. Don’t do it. Period.
- Tapping the Microphone and asking “Is this on?” — If you aren’t 100% sure your microphone is on, don’t use it. Make sure the sound technician knows you are ready to go, march right up to it, rip it out of the stand and bellow out your opening statement.
- Ask a question –This is a sure-fire way to create bedlam. Saunter to the front and say, “Who is glad to be here today?” You’ll get 10 bazillion different responses and it will take you 10 minutes to get everyone refocused. More on this later.
- Take too long to set something/someone up — If you are introducing someone, grab the attention with one, authoritative sentence: “Boys and Girls, give a great big welcome to Mr. Bob!” and then hand off the mike. (If Mr. Bob knows what he is doing, he’ll know what to do next to keep their attention.)
- Threaten — Making empty threats in order to gain or keep sentence only makes you look weak. If you are prepared, excited and in charge, you won’t need to beg for attention and you won’t need to make threats.
So, how do I get the attention of the students? Well, come back later and I’ll do a whole article on ways to gain attention in a group of young people.
2. Speak in a Monotone
Ben Stein turned the parody of a monotone teacher into an icon of relate-ability in the classic movie, “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off”. Indeed, it was his boring teaching that drove Ferris into planning a day of playing hooky. Don’t be Ben Stein. Vary your voice like you would a musical instrument — use volume, speed and intensity — to create drama, excitement, anticipation and enthusiasm.
3. Project your Boredom
If you think your lesson is boring, your likely to project that onto your students. If you think your lesson is exciting and potentially life-changing, then act like it. Do you know that learning your times tables can be great fun? Turn them into a song, make it a game, turn them into a rap, have a contest. But whatever you do, don’t make them boring. There are few things more tragic than a Bible story teacher who drains the life out Scripture because they won’t be creative and enthused about what they are teaching. Any topic in the world can be made exciting and challenging by a teacher who truly thinks that what they are teaching is important. if you don’t think it is important — then let someone else teach in your place!
4. Be Poorly Prepared
If you don’t come very prepared for your class, you can count on it that one of your children is fully prepared to entertain their friends during any lulls you so generously provide. Always have extra material you can grab at a minutes notice if you have extra time to spare. It can be a story, a game, a review, a contest, a song. One of the great tricks of teaching is to “leave them wanting more”. So pack your story to the end and then leave them “dangling” by saying, “Wow, I had so much more we were going to do/cover/hear/look at. Oh well, I guess we’ll have to pick it up tomorrow!”
5. Ask open-ended questions in a general way
I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve seen a teacher blow a lesson by coming up and awkwardly opening up with some poorly-considered question. What do you think will happen when you say “So, what is your favorite kind of ice cream?” Instantly, some kids will let out a huge “Yummmmm!” Others will throw their shoulders out of socket with the speed with which they shoot their hands skyward so you’ll call on them. Most will just blurt out their very favorite kind and it then small debates will break out between people who think the choice of the person next to them has a disgusting favorite flavor. In 15 second flat, you have complete chaos. Now imagine the same teacher saying, “If you like icecream, don’t say a word, but raise your hand!” Now you have their attention, but no bedlam with which you must deal for the next 3 minutes as you real their enthusiasm back in. Ask questions that have a specific answer, instruct them before asking how you want them to respond and don’t set your kids up for a scolding by not thinking of the consequences your question might cause before you ask it.
Those are just some “tricks of the trade” to avoid. Stay tuned for some positive ideas next.
Whether you are a classroom teacher, a Sunday school teacher or even a homeschool mom, teaching children is a skill that can be honed like any other talent or ability. Great teachers usually a have “Knack” (ie…gift) for teaching, but even someone who looks at the opportunity of teaching kids as akin to visiting their friendly oral surgeon can pick up a few tricks for their tool bag that might just make the experience more enjoyable.
Here are five:
1. Pay Attention to Attention Span
For children, a good attention span rule of thumb is about 1 minute per year of age. After that, you are on borrowed time and the potential for a poor behavior episode increases with each tick of the clock. So be aware that if you are teaching kindergartners, you have about 5 minutes of attention time before you’re going to need to give them some sort of break in the action.
2. Move, Baby, Move!
If you stand in one spot (worse yet, stay glued to a lectern), your kids will start looking for something more interesting upon which to gaze. So walk about, walk around, walk through, walk behind, but get moving. This will keep your student’s eyes from wandering and will help you keep their attention.
3. Use Props
Whether you are using a hand-puppet made out of an old sock with button eyes or have an amazing powerpoint presentation complete with an embedded video, props will add interest, break up monotony and create interest. Don’t freak out and spend a bunch of money and time to develop props. It can be something as simple as an interesting magazine picture mounted on a piece of construction paper, a curio you picked up on a vacation trip that was a curiosity from a far-away place and might give a change of pace to the presentation or it could be a wonderfully simple everyday item like a piece of bread, an apple, a rock or a leaf. Depending on the lesson, you can come up with SOMETHING that will divert attention and recapture focus.
4. Deal with discipline issues
Your classroom will be run by the person with the most interesting personality in it. That needs to be you. Make it happen. And when little Johnny or Janie decide to take a run at the “Most Interesting” title you so proudly wear, shut them down. Whatever you do, don’t ignore it, don’t encourage it and don’t make it worse. I’ll share some crowd control techniques in a later article.
5. Tell Stories
EVERYBODY loves a story. So weave stories in and out of your content constantly. They don’t have to be 20 minute vignettes with marionettes providing thespian-like entertainment — it can simply be a tidbit of trivia (Did you know that if you help a butterfly emerge from its cocoon, it will likely never fly? Part of the struggle of escaping the pupae prepares it for the ability to fly.) or a personal anecdote (Last week when I was at the store, I found that I needed to learn how to use my multiplication tables to figure out how many bananas I could buy.) or even a story out of the headlines (An Iranian-American Pastor is being held in captivity in Iran because he refuses to renounce his faith.) Stories connect us with truths. Use them liberally.
Watch this blog for more articles with teaching tips in the future.
(Dan Burrell holds a Doctorate in Educational Leadership and is a former classroom teacher, current college professor and past-president of the Florida Association of Christian Colleges and Schools. He has co-authored two books for teachers and has extensive experience in training classroom teachers, story tellers and communicators around the world.)
To those who would bash the notion that the ideals of the Christian religion has an important force in civilization. Consider the worth of discipline, character, work ethic, morality, purpose and destiny in a people — All of which are byproducts of Christian virtues.
Jeremy Egerer: “[I]ntelligence amongst the good brings forth Madisons and Lockes — amongst the bad, maybe a Marx or a Rousseau. Men skilled in rhetoric can be Churchills or Hitlers, those with charisma either George Washington or Jim Jones. Considerable skill in engineering may eliminate dependence on oil, or it may build nuclear weapons for Syrian terrorists. Whatever the skill, whatever the gift, its benefit to mankind depends not upon talent itself, but upon the character of those who wield it. Therefore, all sensible men must be in agreement that the talents of mankind are not in themselves good, but are wholly and universally dependent upon the judgment, fortitude, and charity of their possessors. Talent for the sake of civilization must be developed, but it is better to be in the company of the righteous layman and farmer than surrounded by impressively treacherous and barbarous men. … Without valiant soldiers, honest judges, vigilant citizens, and ethical working men of all kinds, Edisons and Einsteins may occasionally succeed, but true liberty in divine Law permits genius to flourish.”
I collected epigrams and quotations like others collect baseball cards. Rarely have I found one so utterly devastating in its accuracy as this one:
“I find that when I think I am asking God to forgive me I am often in reality…asking Him not to forgive me but to excuse me. But there is all the difference in the world between forgiving and excusing. Forgiveness says ‘Yes, you have done this thing, but I accept your apology…’ But excusing says ‘I see that you couldn’t help it or didn’t mean it; you weren’t really to blame.’ …And if we forget this, we shall go away imagining that we have repented and been forgiven when all that has really happened is that we have satisfied ourselves with our own excuses. They may be very bad excuses; we are all too easily satisfied about ourselves.” — C.S. Lewis
~ “On Forgiveness,” The Weight of Glory
My dear friend and mentor, Charles Wood, hit on a topic in his recent musings from “The Woodchuck’s Den” (I highly recommend that you get this near-daily counseling/coaching and information journal. You can do so by emailing him at email@example.com. Tell him I recommend him to you.) It deals with folks who want to join your church, but come with an agenda or a pet issue. The temptation for many is to desire growth and fresh blood so deeply that they’ll welcome any one. The problem with that is that too often, we can sow the seeds of future conflict and even disaster. It’s like marrying the wrong person — it can impact the entire family.
Whether their “issue” is tongues or music styles or Bible versions or eschatology or politics or homeschooling or birth control or prophecy or Israel or any one of a thousand other pet topics to which people cling, when the personal preference becomes an agenda item for an individual who is insisting that others must join their cause or that having their priorities makes them somehow spiritually superior, in the end — division, dissension and controversy are just around the corner.
In his missive, Dr. Wood quotes a well-known pastor and researcher who offers some helpful thoughts on the topic.
Ed Stetzer, President of Lifeway Research, and a seasoned and experienced pastor wrote an article on the topic of “Issue Members” in Christianity Today recently that Dr. Wood sent out that I thought was just excellent. Here’s an excerpt:
“Yesterday, I had an encounter in the line where I shake hands after the Grace Church worship service. A well-dressed man came up to me after church, shook my hand, and immediately started a conversation about prophecy. I listened initially, but within a couple of minutes he had quoted one passage he feels is related to the founding of Israel in 1948 and another about Israel occupying Jerusalem in 1967. ‘Why don’t churches talk more about prophecy?’ he asked. At that point, I could have redirected our conversation and tried to persuade him that we believe in biblical prophecy and will teach on it another time (both of which are true). Or, since he approvingly referenced both Jack Van Impe and John Hagee, I could have found some ways of positively connecting with each of these men.
“In most cases, however, I’ve decided that ‘this is not the church for you’ is actually the right response for ‘issue Christians’ who are visiting the church. Honestly, if this person were unchurched and told me they thought highly of Deepak Chopra and Wayne Dyer, I would have sought a point of contact and encouraged further discussion. I probably would have tried to get together– if they were open– to see what the Bible says about the kinds of things that Wayne Dyer talks about. I would have used the bridge to talk about Jesus. However, in this case, I simply said something like, ‘We are not one of those churches that you would think talks about prophecy enough– this would not be the right church for you, but I do hope your search for a church home goes well.’
“You see, I don’t spend a lot of time with ‘issue Christians.’
“It’s not just the issue of prophecy either. I’ve had similar conversations with ‘issue Calvinists,’ ‘issue political Christians,’ ‘issue charismatics,’ ‘issue homeschoolers,’ and many others. These are often good people, and those are important issues, but when these are the primary defining issues in the first (and every other) conversation, the correct response is help them move on and do so quickly.
“Here are four reasons why I have no difficulty helping ‘issue Christians’ to move on:
1. Some ‘issue Christians’ get so stuck on specific ideas–you don’t have time to persuade them.
It is simply not a good use of your time and energy to debate with ‘issue Christians.’ Instead, reach your community, pastor your people, and get on mission. Focus on reaching the unreached, not debating church members about eschatology or pneumatology. If they know Christ, but are stuck on an issue, they will be just fine without you. Generally, you can’t ‘fix them anyway and they will (eventually) come out of it on their own.
2. Some ‘issue Christians’ have divisive views–you don’t need them to fit in at your church’s expense.
You can disagree in our church (to a reasonable degree) and still be a part–I’ve pastored cessationists, charismatics, Calvinists, and Arminians all in the same church. The issues are not the issue, it is that this person wants to make them an issue. Simply, ‘issue Christians’ generally do not fit in well in a mission-focused congregation. They don’t want to.
3. Some ‘issue Christians’ drift from church to church looking for willing ears–you do not need to let that in your church.
‘Issue Christians’ love to debate and display their knowledge. It is not good stewardship of your time to have these debates and you are not being a good steward of your church to let them loose inside.
4. Some ‘issue Christians’ will talk forever if you do not cut them off–you will probably offended them less than you think.
For many, listening for hours is the Christian thing to do. Many pastors listen, set up appointments, then seek to reason and redirect the confused. That’s not a good plan if it is obvious that this person has dwelt in and studied on an issue. My experience is that people like this get ‘cut off’ all the time. So, I say, ‘Thanks Joe, but that’s not what we are passionate about here–I do encourage you to find a church that is passionate about what your issues.’ Surprisingly, that does not generally offend–people like that have been cut off many times before this time.
“So, let me encourage you to thank ‘issue Christians’ for their passion and time, and encourage them to find a church home that fits their values. Of course, I should say, this is different if someone comes to me confused on an issue. In that case, we can counsel and provide more information.
“In conclusion, we should always provide guidance, but we should not always provide a platform. ‘Issue Christians’ want a platform with you and your church because they are passionate about an issue–don’t let that distract you or your church from being and doing all that God has in store. Move on… and move them on.”
I read an interesting blog article today HERE. Sadly, many people who are “pro-choice/abortion” really do not know the barbarism that is a legal medical abortion. I challenge you to read how one person responded when faced with the facts.
More importantly, let me show you some images below.
The first is a diagram of what occurs during an abortion. It is quite horrifying. But it just a drawing, correct? I mean, it’s not REALLY a baby and it really is THAT violent, right? For that reason, there is a second photo. A photo of a child post-abortion. Tell me this is not a child. Tell me that this little person should have no rights. Tell me that this infanticidal procedure should be constitutionally protected. Tell me that this is morally acceptable. If you are intellectually honest and morally just, you can’t. You. Simply. Can. Not.
Keep in mind when viewing this next photo that this baby is not yet 23 weeks old as show in the procedure above. Yet, it is still clearly a baby.
Now here’s one final photograph. You might argue, that what you saw above is not really a human because it’s not viable. Not viable, you say? Look below at the little one who was delivered just prior to 23 weeks of gestation.
If these photos offended you, good. They should. This is reality. The truth is ugly. These photos are important to see just like the photos of bodies stacked at Auschwitz were important. It is a snapshot of our humanity — or lack of it. If you were pro-abortion and they offend you, then perhaps there is hope that you might compassionately change your mind.
If not, go back and look at these pictures again and then go take a long look at yourself in the mirror. Surely, you can see this for yourself. This is a child. He or she deserves a chance.
Then promise yourself that if you should ever be in the position that you have an unplanned pregnancy, that you would do the compassionate and loving thing — like the birthmothers of our four children did — let the baby come to term and deliver him or her. Then let a young couple, who longs to raise a child as their own, take on that responsibility for you. Should you do that, they will forever be grateful to you. I know that. Personally. For sure.
Choose Life. You will NEVER regret it.
In the words of the kindly children’s author, Dr. Suess — A person’s a person….no matter how small.