School isn’t the only place where we can learn—day-to-day experiences can deal us some major life lessons that you won’t find in any academic book. Sadly, because we are always too wrapped up in our fast-paced lives, we forget about these life gems that help us become better people. Now that we’re adults, we’ve become even more stubborn and hard-headed than when we were children, and sometimes, it takes the discipline of a strict teacher to beat some sense into us. That disciplinarian can come in the form of an actual slap on the head, or it may come in the form of an online article that aims to remind us of the lessons we’ve forgotten. 1.Be productive, not busy. Never let your job rule […]
1. You Complain. Complaining may feel good for a second but it is probably the biggest waste of time there is! It serves no purpose unless you are taking note of what went wrong for the sake of figuring out what you’re going to do about it. Otherwise, shut up about it because really, nobody wants to hear it! 2. You’re Unorganized. You can’t find anything when you need it! Everywhere you spend any time is a mess, at home, at work and even in your car! Start to get organized by getting rid of ANYTHING you don’t use, don’t know how to use or don’t recognize; then you’ll begin to have room to think! 3. You’re Late. If early is on time and on […]
Can you get trapped in a treadmill while you try to chase your dreams? My answer is yes. You can sleepwalk through life, with your eyes wide open, and not even notice you are doing it. You can convince yourself that you are building a career, while you are simply being used as, often cheap, labour. You can slave away for a project, despite having no real interest in it. You can fake enthusiasm for certain activities to such an extent that you even believe it yourself. You can think that you are following your own strategy while you are working for someone else’s plans and goals. You can end up in a job you hate, to pay for things you don’t need, to impress […]
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There’s a reason the theme from Frozen is a worldwide hit. People have been finding ways to “Let It Go” for a very long time, but throwing caution to the wind is easier said than done. Often, we are bogged down by the daily worries that life throws at us, but if there’s one secret that genuinely happy people share, it’s that they know how to let stuff go. It may take a while for you to completely change your mindset, but letting go of these can be a good start: 1.Stress. Sure, everyone needs to go through some level of stress, especially in our jobs. But when we let stress rule our lives and have it affect our personal relationships, we lose our innate […]
A friend ruined my date night with my wife! Let me show you the picture I was in. One night, while me and my wife were dining in a restaurant, a friend dropped by our table. Little did I know that he came to sabotage our evening. Before narrating what happened next, I better explain who this guy is, and why I bother to write about my relationship with him and this episode. I grew up with him. We did everything young boys would do in the neighborhood together. We’d continue being friends ’til we have grown out of our kids’ bodies and became much bigger, and began preoccupied with girls. While in college, we’d always catch up with each other’s developments. We were best […]
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Today’s children are riddled with shots that chip away at their self-esteem and self-worth. From bullying—whether overt or passive (i.e. being left out of games or groups)—to learning disabilities to familial dysfunction to peer pressure, they are constantly under fire. Positive self-talk is a crucial, effective strategy they can use to combat any time of discomfort. When I was a child, someone—we never learned who—set my father’s car on fire. It burned to a crisp in the middle of the night, and without insurance, we had no other method of transportation but his bicycle. In the frigid Maryland winter, I sat on the handlebars while Dad held me and pedaled hard to his work at the A&P (grocery store). The trip was three or four […]
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It’s no secret that when you’re in a positive emotional state of mind everything just seems to seamlessly fall into place. “If you smile when you wake up, even if you have to force it, you will be happier for the rest of the day” we’ve all heard this somewhere before! But here are some more practical and scientifically proven ways you can boost productivity and well-being. 1. Your office interior design matters. It doesn’t matter whether you’re working from home or in an office; your work space design play a key role in boosting your productive energy and mental health. There are several things to keep in mind when designing your office; colour, flow, space and furniture all play an important part in creative […]
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When people are trying to get healthy, there are two main ways in which they generally go about doing it: through diet, or through exercise. In fact, when we think healthy lifestyle, we think of something based around those two subjects. While both are necessary in order to live a completely healthy lifestyle, many people are keen to extol the virtues of one over the other. However, there is one simple truth that no amount of exercising or dieting will erase: in order to live a truly healthy lifestyle, you cannot have one without the other. Sure, you might go to the gym every day, working your body to its limits, but if you are combining that with a diet of fast food and candy, […]
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“Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.” – Samuel Johnson There’s a lot of truth to the quote above by Samuel Johnson. Almost everything great starts with self confidence. Confidence is what sunlight is to plants, without it, you’ll struggle, be unhappy, and find it hard to make real progress. Confidence is a big part of success, doing things exceptionally well, and being proud of what you do. Confidence is a big part of being happy and developing your skills. These 3 powerful ways to boost confidence have helped me a lot, and still do. So I’m sure you’ll gain value from this article to help you on your journey. 1. Sharpen your skills. When I first started out blogging 2 years ago, I […]
Your success is not in your hands. It’s in your mind. I saw you snicker and that’s not some psycho mumbo jumbo. When you make up your mind to be a success, your mind leads your actions. Those actions lead you to success because you become what you think about most. You know it’s true. Remember the gorgeous blonde you saw in the bar and you fell all over yourself trying to pick her up? It didn’t work. Because you had in your mind that she was out of your league, but you tried anyway. She thought it was hilarious that you couldn’t talk like a grown man, but she wasn’t going out of there with someone who wasn’t ready for her level of class. […]
“You can stay in therapy your whole life, but you’ve got to live life and not talk about life.” –Tracey Gold I’ve been to over 200 hours of therapy. These are the some of the things I’ve learned from all that time and money spent. Dun. Dun. Dun. I wanted to replicate the beginning of Law and Order, but I probably failed. That’s okay and that failure leads me to the first thing I learned. It Is Okay To Be Who You Are I tell some really dorky jokes. Jokes that are unfunny to most people. I use to not do this because I was ashamed of being me. I was afraid of others judging me so I hid parts of my personality that I […]
Last week I was in Silicon Valley and I was meeting with one of my consulting clients, a CTO at a high growth startup. During our conversation, we started talking about one of his engineering managers. He was struggling to manage this fellow, since every time they were trying to make a decision (green-lighting a new feature, adjusting their strategy, etc.) this manager reacted with resistance. It didn’t matter what the decision was; it seemed like he always had an objection. Luckily, I was able to help. How? Well, I know a lot about this kind of difficult behavior firsthand, because I used to be that guy. As engineers we are taught to look for bottlenecks. When building software the ability to think through potential […]
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Is your coffee just something you grab as a take-out from the faceless coffee shop on your way to the office? Or is it worse, some grey watery liquid dispensed from a machine. Could you be getting more from your coffee and indeed life? 1. Pause just a moment and do it well. If you’ve ever been to Paris, amid the rush and packed metros, you may have seen that the French have a great way to enjoy coffee. They don’t do the take-out but they don’t sit down either. It’s au comptoir and it saves a few cents as well. A big advantage of standing at the bar is that the coffee is drunk from a nice little china cup – it’ll be an […]
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The idea of hard work leading to success has been a universal and sacred tenet for centuries. But is it true? Does hard work truly lead to success? Is every hard working person that you know a success? Or is their life full of disappointments and anguish? As is always the case, this advice is a reactionary response to laziness. Those who lack drive and motivation are told that they need to work hard in order to become a success. However, the idea of hard work has led to just as much frustration as has the failure to reach one’s goals. And there are good reasons for this. Since childhood, whatever activity we have been involved in, we have been told to do it HARD. […]
You can’t enter a battlefield armed with only an arsenal of interrogative statements. However, acquiring a database of questions can definitely tame a few pesky weeds. For example, I might worry intensely every day. But maybe I can search inside myself to transfigure at least a good chunk of those worrisome thoughts into a mindset focused on recovery. Questions are a great medium to begin identifying and treating anxiety-related thoughts. Even then, your mind might still feel like a ship with holes in its rudder, and when water floods inside, you’re overwhelmed with nerves. I myself knew that I was too stuck on small matters, so I remedied sessions and readings to help me. I’ve learned from those experiences that some questions are worth asking […]
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When it comes to acquiring knowledge, there is only one place on the Internet nowadays, every successful person would suggest without hesitation – TED talks. TED talks are the epitome of knowledge. Their motto – ideas worth spreading – signifies the purpose of this movement and justifies its amazing ability to effectively spread high-quality ideas in today’s internet’s chaotic environment. Despite the amazing value TED talks have to offer, there is a small problem about them. There are more than 1600 TED talks out there and you could spend hours trying to identify the ones that are more beneficial to you and your reality. For that reason, I decided to draft this article. I thought that instead of spending hours listening to people talk about […]
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“It’s not that they can’t see the solution. They can’t see the problem.” – G.K Chesterton, Writer and philosopher We need to ask the right questions to get the right answers. If you think you have the problem figured out and are convinced that you do, think again. Whether it’s a technical, relationship, or philosophical problem, asking better questions is a key to successful problem solving and to winning any battle. Actress and political activist Vanessa Redgrave was quoted saying, “Ask the right questions if you’re going to find the right answers.” Now, how does one learn to ask better questions? Key 1: Do Not Limit. We so often say to ourselves things like: Why can’t I afford it? Why can’t I ever lose weight? […]
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Recently I was in a bit of a slump. Things just weren’t going my way. Nowadays I am absolutely great again. I feel wonderful and life is on the up and up again. However sooner or later I will probably get into a slump again. It’s inevitable. How did I get out of it..? #1 First of all: stop stressing about everything that isn’t going well. You will be fine. You are fine right now. You are just having a little down period in your life. Life always comes in waves. There will be a positive wave after a negative wave. But this will only happen if you don’t quit. Accept that things just aren’t going your way at the moment. I know it’s […]
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Identity theft is one of those things that no one sees coming. You always hear about it happening to someone else, so you never consider taking preventative steps to prevent it from happening to you. When identity theft strikes close to home, however, you quickly realize that the impact can be far reaching, and the relatively small amount of effort you could have exerted would have been well worth the energy. I’ll give you an example. Several years ago, my wife had a backpack containing her credit cards and license stolen from her car. At first, the whole thing seemed like it would be easily resolved by cancelling the cards and replacing the ID, but larger issues arose when she discovered the thieves had used […]
Ah, the little things. Your husband loses his keys for the 37th time. A driver cuts you off. A nasty neighbor complains about your disruptive children. A restaurant serves you the wrong entree. And it’s cold. Things happen. Things that make us angry, upset and annoyed. Things we wish we could shake but can’t because it’s our nature to hang onto them. So we stew on them. We argue, complain, mope or yell. Some of us toss and turn in our beds at night because, in spite of our efforts, we cannot let them go. Our reactions to the things that happen to us are programmed, from the way we snap at our spouse when we are running late to a party, to the way […]