True to their words the committee of experts did not include gay rights into constitution. In fact they went on to add ' Marriage to a person of the opposite sex' on the marriage clause. This did not surprise me though as it was expected.What I expected was the decriminalization of homosexuality and on my quick perusal on the draft Constitution show that it is silent on this matter and

I am very mad!A bunch of guys were overheard talking and saying why they cant stand me because I have refused to come out to the public. The strange thing is that all of them are deeply in the closet. Just because they are effeminate does not mean they are out. For example, save for one, their own families does not even know they are gay.They feel for their own reasons that I would push the

Whenever I get a bloggers block, I try and dust up old posts. This is one I copied from BCG and edited to suit Kenya.1. THE Down Low HOMOPHOBE – He can spot any gay guy anywhere at anytime. He always has something negative to say to or about the gay guy, but in reality he just wants the gay boy’s attention. Homophobes are usually attracted to masculine gay men as the feminine ones will blow their

A new friend of mine in his late 20's has met a 38 year old guy and they have started a relationship. My friend is quite open about his sexuality and is as out as one can be in the Kenyan context. He is not camp or anything like that but you can tell by his mannerism and where he hangs out that he is gayThe problem however is the fact that his new boyfriend is deeply closeted and says that only

I received an impromptu invite for a Halloween party this past Saturday. Since I had gone out the night before, my plan were wine and TV. With my boyfriend being away, this has been my routine on Saturday evenings.Anyhow, this friend of mine convinced me to go with him for a Halloween party hosted by a lady friend of his. When we got there, I found out that it was also the hostesses' birthday.

As the media focus on homosexuals, we have started seeing positive news all round.This article lit my face this morning. I think this is a bold step and hopefully the results of the research will give the government an indication of the number of gay people in the country and what our concerns are. The full text is here below.The Government will spend Sh40 million on a research to establish the

No one could have said it better than Makau Mutua. This was in response to the announcement by the committee of experts that they will not considered gay rights in the new constitution because Church leaders stated that they( The Church) will not support the draft constitution if the rights of homosexuals are considered therein.Here is what Mutua wrote. I have pasted for those who cant follow the

This is a comment that a reader KH left on my visibility post. I felt that this deserves a post by itself. Well written.I despise straight people who think they're being progressive and open-minded by saying they're "okay with gays", but reveal themselves to be as bigoted as out-and-out homophobes when they say they don't want it "in their face." If I could, then I would tell them fine - you

This past weekend, I saw this book ' The Gay Man's Kama Sutra' in a quaint bookshop at Prestige Plaza and walked in and bought it. This post is not about the contents of the book but the significance of the book being available in Nairobi.I read it and was quite disappointed because there was nothing to learn and it actually has more about the history of man to man sex than the ways to improve

Not soon after my visibility post, then comes this double spread in today EA Standard.This article has photos of men in drag and many stories about gay and lesbian experiences. A few years ago, this story would have been an expose' and would have the city abuzz. However, this story seems to have been ignored or taken to be an every day occurrence.The only issue I have with the article is the

In an interview last week with Vanity fair magazine, Rapper Warren G said he has no problem with gay people but he does not want us visible. He claims that he knows that people who are gay but he prefers if we kept it 'back in the scene'.This is an excerpt of the interview.I ain’t against gay people. I’m just against it being promoted to kids...I know people that’s gay. My wife’s got friends that

I received an email from AJ today as an update to this story. For those who cannot follow the link, AJ wrote to me in April asking for advise. Apparently, she found a gay porn DVD at her boyfriends house and she wanted to know if he was gay.She did not confront him but tried to bring up topics on homosexuality. I advised her and we communicated we exchanged a couple of times and after that she

I decided I will not post the aftermath of my anniversary .. sorry folks! Anyhow, even if I wanted to write I would say nothing because the black-box got lost in the crash LOL.Apparently there is a lady called Kenya Gay and has a profile on Facebook. So, a reader decided to search to see if I have a profile for this blog on Facebook and found the lady. Well..that is not me and this blog does

This weekend, My boyfriend and I celebrate five years together. I cant believe it has been two years since I wrote this mushy post. I do not wish to rehash this post but five years is worth celebrating. Five years chronological years is like 20 gay years.This year, I want to celebrate the positive points in our relationship and why we have lasted this long. A lot of people wish for a long term

On my way to work this morning, I was pleasantly surprised to hear the Kiss FM 7 o'clock news talk about an initiative to offer support to homosexuals in Western and coast province. A known gay activist Benjamin Kaniaru was quoted saying that MSM's in these regions do not have access to safe sex programmes like Nairobi has.What stood out for me, was that this piece of news that was aired for

I have not had time to respond to emails recently but when I received this question, I requested permission to publish this question and my response. Dear GNM I am a twenty-year-old male in Kenyatta University and consider myself to be heterosexual. The problem is, I have a very strong desire for anal pleasure. When I was fifteen, I discovered that inserting a finger or two into my anus while

In the aftermath of my refusal to be a gay martyr, I spent time this past weekend with my pals who all support my decision but that is not the subject of this post. Nor is the fact that I had a great time and realized how much I have missed spending time with this bunch of people that I trust.The subject of this post is the now ubiquitous gay parties and how things have changed. My friends made

To change the subject a little bit, an online controversy is going on if rapper Souljaboy stuffed something down his pants for this twitter posted photo. All I can say is Damn! Be the judge.

This has to be one of the toughest decision I have had to make in my life. Once I did engage my mind though, It was pretty easy to come up with a decision that I will not regret.First a short story. About 8 years ago, I was a lead interviewer for a senior position and one of the short-listed candidates was a gay man who was my acquittance. The guy was ill prepared for the interview and

I am faced with a conflict of sorts at work. The matter is of principle and whichever way I decide, someone would have to lose.I have a proposal on my desk that requires me to make a decision. By making the decision in one way, I will be making a bold move to support gay rights in Kenya and in some way stop discrimination against people based on their sexuality. However, by doing so, I will